She Wants To Tell Her Friend That Her Outfits Are Awful And That’s Why She’s Having An Impossible Time Dating Guys
A 24-year-old woman is best friends with a 26-year-old woman, and the two of them have been tight for over a decade.
Lately, her friend has had an incredible amount of difficulty dating guys, and every single time that she calls her best friend, her best friend wants to talk about her bad dating luck.
Her best friend told her that she isn’t quite sure why she’s having a hard time matching with guys on dating apps and she’s also not certain why she’s getting ghosted a lot.
Well, she thinks she knows exactly why her best friend is on the struggle bus. “I think she’s beautiful obviously but I don’t think she has conventional/marketable beauty,” she explained.
“This is exacerbated by her clothing choices. For her whole life up until 2020 she has been very skinny but just like everyone else she gained weight in the last two years.”
Now that her best friend has put on some weight, she’s “average” instead of super skinny. Her best friend isn’t bothered by the weight gain at all, but it has caused her best friend to start changing her taste in clothing.
“…Since her weight gain she has started to wear clothes that seem to swallow her, in bright colors that don’t necessarily go together along with patterned socks and sandals,” she said.
“On paper, this look could be pulled off but she’s… not. It looks more akin to what you would wear if given a bag of random clothes (she’s not being given clothes, she’s doing well financially and goes clothes shopping regularly).”
Her best friend will frequently send her pictures of her outfits, and although her best friend never asks how she feels about her clothing, she goes out of her way to tell her best friend that she looks good.
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She’s afraid to hurt her best friend’s feelings, so that’s why she hasn’t told her how she really feels.
“I would normally just keep my mouth shut, especially since she’s not asking for my opinion, but I think her clothing choices are making it really hard to find dates which has been very distressing for her,” she continued.
“I feel bad every time I hear that she’s been ghosted by a guy she likes or a guy breaks things off with her after a date or two. She seems to be unaware that her clothes might be having an impact.”
She did question her best friend about why she was under the impression guys don’t want to date her at all, and her best friend chalked it up to not wanting children.
Her best friend also mentioned that she doesn’t understand what would be so offputting to guys aside from that key detail.
Not that long ago, she decided to discuss her best friend’s outfits with one of their mutual friends, and this mutual friend also thinks her bestie’s choice in clothes is what’s making guys run.
She’s seriously considering addressing this with her best friend and letting her know she genuinely thinks she’s dressing in an awful way.
“With dating apps being based almost 100% on appearances it feels both mean to not tell her and mean to tell her,” she concluded.
Do you think she should voice her opinion or keep it to herself?
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