She’s Planning On Moving In With Her Former High School Teacher After She Graduates College, But Her Parents Don’t Know He’s Her Boyfriend And They Expect Her To Move Home

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lanarusfoto - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purpose only, not the actual person

Pretty soon, a 22-year-old woman will be graduating from the college she attends, but there’s something she’s really stressing out over, and it’s not the fact that she’s leaving everything she’s known for the past few years behind.

After she graduates, her mom and dad fully expect her to move home and be with them, but that’s not what she’s going to do at all.

Instead, she’s going to move in with her 44-year-old boyfriend, and her parents don’t even know about him.

She’s been dating her boyfriend for 2 years, and she hasn’t filled her parents in about her relationship with him since they’ll be upset for a couple of reasons.

The first reason she’s been hesitant to tell her parents about her boyfriend is the obvious one; he’s 22 years older than she is and they won’t be ok with that kind of an age gap.

The second reason she’s dragged her feet on revealing her relationship to her mom and dad is that her boyfriend used to be her teacher when she was back in high school.

“I know this sounds bad, but we didn’t start dating until a year after I had graduated and nothing ever happened while I was his student,” she explained.

“He didn’t even want to date initially but eventually we decided that we had done nothing wrong and began to pursue a relationship.”

After they both came to that conclusion, they were more comfortable moving forward. The majority of her boyfriend’s friends know about the two of them, and all of her friends are aware of their relationship too.

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None of their friends think there are any red flags with them being together, but she has still kept it a complete secret from her family.

Her mom and dad do know that she has a preference for guys who are older than she is, and she thinks her parents would come around to her boyfriend if he had been someone she found on a dating platform, but that’s not the case.

As soon as her parents meet her boyfriend (or rather if that ever happens) they will instantly recognize him as her high school teacher as they met him back then.

She’s really hung up on when to tell her parents about her secret, or how she can break the news to them knowing that there’s going to be some fallout and they will make her pick between them or her boyfriend.

On one hand, she doesn’t want to hurt her family or cause problems between them, and on the other, she’s sick of having to keep her boyfriend one big secret.

“I want to move in with him but I don’t want to sacrifice my relationship with my family by doing that,” she said.

She has considered keeping her living situation vague and just telling her parents that she’s getting her own place in lieu of moving home, but they will insist on coming to see it, and then they will inadvertently find out about her boyfriend that way.

She’s leaning towards that not really being the best solution to this after all, and that it’s probably best to rip the bandaid off.

“I’ve been thinking about it more and I think I need to put my happiness first and just tell them soon,” she added.

“Eventually, they will have to get over it, and if they don’t that says more about them than it does about me.”

Do you think it’s time for her to just face the music and hope her mom and dad are understanding of her relationship?

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