This Dad Thought He Was Funding His Daughter’s College Education, But As Soon As He Found Out About What The Money Was Really Being Used For, He Stopped Paying

Drobot Dean - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purpose only, not the actual person
Drobot Dean - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purpose only, not the actual person

A man was married to his first wife, but 8 years ago, she walked out on him after he found out that she was cheating on him.

He and his then ex-wife split custody of their children 50/50, and their children are now 19 (a son) and 21 (a daughter).

His kids really wanted to go live with his ex full-time even though he did custody of them too, but he respected their wishes since he could still visit them.

After divorcing his ex, he was able to move on with his life. He met and married another woman, and he worked his heart out to earn more in his career.

He paid for everything his son and daughter needed, even after they turned 18 and he no longer was required by the courts to do that.

During his divorce, the court had ordered that he and his wife would equally pay for their kids to go to college, but he paid for it entirely alone.

“In addition to paying tuition, I paid any other expenses (car, expensive clothing, electronics, holidays, etc) even though after a while my daughter went almost no contact,” he explained.

“She sends me texts with the amount and where to send it and I send the money.”

“Two weeks ago my son turned up on my doorstep after I hadn’t heard from him in two months. He told me that my daughter dropped out of college after a few months and that I have been funding their mother’s and her new children’s lifestyle all these years as her affair partner left her after their third child.”

Drobot Dean – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purpose only, not the actual person

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His ex-wife and his daughter don’t work at all either. They have been using him like an ATM and living off the money that he thought was funding his daughter’s college education.

As soon as his son told him this, he stopped paying, and right now, his ex and his daughter are facing eviction since they can no longer pay their rent.

His daughter began bawling when he told her that he would no longer be sending her money, and he did say he would help her find a job, but she doesn’t want to work.

His daughter has requested that they meet at a restaurant or at his house when his new wife isn’t around so they can talk about the money more.

His daughter doesn’t like his new wife or the 2 young children that he has with her.

“I have suggested family therapy but my daughter says she will forgive me once I start paying again,” he added.

“After that, she wants for things to go back to how they were. She says I owe it to her mother as we were married before to look after her other three children until they come of age. I don’t think that is my responsibility at all. Especially as I have done it for so many years when they were not my children.”

He doesn’t plan on cutting his son out of his life financially, as his son did own up to what was going on behind the scenes with his money. He’s left wondering if it’s wrong of him to stop paying for what was supposed to be his daughter’s college education, yet still paying for his son’s.

What do you think, considering that his daughter isn’t going to use his money for college at all and that’s what it was intended for?

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