Katharina Buczek
Say you and your partner want to achieve financial stability, have children, or travel the world. At the same time, you both value keeping a clean home, having pets, and making time for yourselves.
How can you possibly accomplish all of this without constantly getting into quarrels? By having realistic expectations that you discuss together.
If you both like a tidy house, for instance, you need to get on the same page in terms of “who does what.” Who will take care of the dishes, and who will mop the floors?
Likewise, when life throws a wrench in your schedule, and you are busy, or your partner is sick, who will pick up the slack and how?
It is important to be on the same page as your partner about what you want. However, it is equally critical that you both are flexible with your expectations and willing to problem-solve together when things don’t go as planned.
5. Do you and your partner work to keep the romance alive?
With all of this serious talk, you may think that marriage is devoid of fun and romance. But, the most successful relationships still manage to remain vibrant.
This cannot be accomplished by one person alone, though. Rather, both people have to dedicate themselves to making it happen. So, think about the last few months of your relationship. When have you gone the extra mile to make your partner feel special, and when have they?
This can be as simple as buying a bouquet of flowers or making a thoughtful home-cooked meal. Just remember, though, that these “little things” add up– and will keep your future marriage energetic, youthful, and exciting.
6. Do you and your partner try to see the best in each other?
When life gets chaotic, it can sometimes be easy to play the blame game. Maybe the laundry isn’t done, or the lawn still is not mowed.
