This Family Coach Is Explaining How To Deal With Children That Aren’t Respectful
Whether your child is five-years-old or fifteen, respect is a virtue that must be taught to them. And when your child is constantly displaying rude behavior, it might be tempting to throw a sarcastic comment back at them.
But if dealt with improperly, disrespectful kids will turn into bad-mannered adults. Respect is a two-way street. If you don’t respect your child, they probably won’t give respect back.
Family coach Sean Donahue (@the.family.coach) is explaining to parents on TikTok how to handle their kids when they’re showing disrespect.
First, he’s telling parents what not to do when a teen or toddler gets sassy. A parent’s first instinct may be to bare their teeth and show their child who’s in charge.
But this may only irk their youngster further. You want to deactivate the tension, so it doesn’t lead to a full-blown fight. Here’s a list of phrases that Sean recommends staying away from:
-“Gosh, you’re so disrespectful.”
-“You’re ruining this day.”
-“How do your friends even like you?”
-“You have to respect me. Because I’m the parent, that’s why!”
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All these phrases embody aggressive commands, threats, and blatant disrespect. They put labels on your child and make them feel stuck in a cycle of shame, leading them to continue acting up.
Next are some remarks that only serve to enable your child’s bad behavior. These phrases are passive excuses that do nothing to help your child in the long run.
-“Kids will be kids; what are you going to do?”
-“Okay, honey, whatever you want.”
-“Don’t say anything; we don’t want to make them mad.”
-“The kid just has ADHD. That’s the way it is.”
Parents’ words are powerful and are part of what builds their kids’ identities. Therefore, as a parent, your words matter, and you must be careful about what you say because you can actually speak things into existence.
If you tell your kid they’re disrespectful and selfish, then they will act disrespectful and selfish since that is what they believe about themselves.
So instead of stooping to their level, Sean is offering some tools you can utilize to replace those less effective strategies.
Sit down and have a heart-to-heart with your child. Acknowledge and validate your child’s feelings while also calmly expressing your feelings. It’s important to be vulnerable and share what’s on your mind.
Once your child realizes you’re a human being too, and not just an unmovable authority figure, you might find it easier to communicate with them.
Additionally, emphasize the positive traits you see in your kid and let them know how great you think they are. Ultimately, it’s all about teamwork and learning how to navigate the waters together, not about parent versus child.
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