He Got Accused Of Being A Horrible Father Because He Coddles His Two Toddlers, Who He Had With His Current Wife, But Admitted To Not Feeling Like He Loves His Eldest Daughter
When this 34-year-old man was just 20, he had a girlfriend named Clara– who wound up getting pregnant. And he admits that he was never happy about the idea of having a child at the time.
But Clara decided that she was going to keep the baby. So, he felt like there was nothing he could do but go along with that plan.
That’s why after their daughter, Sadie, was born, he legally recognized her and got shared custody. Now, Sadie is 13-years-old, and she stays with him two weekends out of every month. He also attends her school events, sees her on holidays, and pays child support.
In spite of everything, though, he revealed how he doesn’t really feel for his daughter.
“If I’m honest, I don’t feel like I love her, and I know that makes me [a jerk],” he admitted.
“I care about her, but I don’t miss her when she is not with me, and I don’t feel the need to see her.”
After he met his current wife, Anna, six years ago, though, his love of children changed.
While his ex Clara and his daughter Sadie were not very fond of Anna, that didn’t stop him from tying the knot. Afterward, he and Anna went on to have two kids together– a son who is 4 and a daughter who is 2.
And with his younger children, he claims everything is different for him.
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“I loved them since the first moment I knew they existed, and that love grows every day since they were born,” he said.
Amidst all of this, though, Sadie has continued visiting his house two weekends every month. But, his eldest reportedly hates his wife and his two toddlers.
Now, he does not allow Sadie to speak to them disrespectfully and has told his daughter that while she doesn’t have to have a relationship with them, she does have to respect them.
At the same time, he claims that his wife has no problem with Sadie and has never once complained about her. His toddlers mostly ignore his eldest, too, since they just want to be with people who will play with them.
So, while Sadie didn’t exactly like his wife and other kids, he thought everything was fine.
More recently, though, his half-sister– who is friends with his ex, Clara– went to visit and stayed at his house for a few days.
This was a new idea, too, since his half-sister apparently did not like his wife and wanted him to marry Clara instead. That’s why he and his half-sister were actually no contact for a few years.
“But my wife, who wants everyone to have a good relationship, convinced me to let her back into our lives,” he said.
It appears that his half-sister noticed the different attention and care he provided Sadie with versus his two toddlers, though, because before his half-sister left, they got into a massive fight.
During the argument, he got accused of coddling his 2-year-old daughter too much and was told that he was horrible for not doing the same to Sadie.
Now, he admits that his 2-year-old is definitely a daddy’s girl who will constantly follow him around. The toddler also always asks for hugs and cuddles, which he is happy to provide.
According to him, his 4-year-old son does the same, too.
“But my sister wasn’t disturbed by me cuddling my son, just my daughter. She was always obsessed with the daddy’s girl figure since she was never that with my dad,” he vented.
Regardless, his half-sister called him a jerk and claimed that since Sadie didn’t get to be a daddy’s girl, his 2-year-old shouldn’t be one, either.
Still, he did not agree with that and claimed that while he is not a good father to Sadie, that shouldn’t mean he is not allowed to love his youngest daughter.
Yet, in the wake of that fight, he’s still been left wondering whether coddling his 2-year-old and not doing the same for Sadie really does make him a jerk.
Did Sadie get to choose who her parents were? Even if he did not want to have a child with Clara, does that mean he is allowed to treat his eldest differently? If you were in Sadie’s shoes, how would you feel watching your father dote over your younger half-siblings? Is there any way he can reconcile this situation?
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