If your spouse insisted on an open marriage, but only changed their mind because nobody was interested in them, how would you feel?
This 36-year-old woman and her 34-year-old husband got married four years ago, and they have been together for seven years in total.
She has one child from a previous marriage and a second with her husband. She is a stay-at-home mom while her husband works a full-time job to support their family, but despite that, they do not have a traditional kind of marriage.
Anyway, two months after she gave birth to the baby she has with her husband, her husband started calling her fat. She was already struggling with postpartum depression and a fresh autism diagnosis, and did not feel supported by her husband at all.
“The body shaming caused us a lack of bedroom activities for quite some time. Fast forward, I lose the weight, and I am currently glowing up,” she explained.
“About a year after the body shaming, he said I could see other people if I wanted to. I politely declined, as I had never been in anything other than monogamous relationships before. Well, I decided to take him up on his offer this year, and so we made dating profiles.”
She received 2,000 likes and pings on the dating app, while her husband didn’t even get one single bite. This has wrecked her husband’s self-esteem, and he’s no longer demanding an open marriage.
Ever since her husband reconsidered seeing other people, he has been demanding that she stop speaking to other guys while twisting the truth and claiming this was all her idea.
Additionally, her husband has been accusing her of sleeping with other men when all she does is stay at home with their baby.
“He doesn’t understand that I’m missing [a] connection and that’s all I’m seeking out here. Attention, love, affection. Am I the [jerk] here, or did I marry a covert abuser?” she wondered.
“A lot of his behavior is odd because he’s a feminist on paper, but lately I think the misogyny is showing. He also conveniently forgot to renew my car registration, and I thought maybe that was to keep me isolated?”
“He has always provided financially for us, and now yesterday he says my half of the rent is due. I know he has past trauma from an ex and stuff, but none of this was my idea. IDK, I feel like I’m going crazy.”
Well, her husband was the one who opened up this can of worms, and it’s hilarious to me that he wants to shut down the whole open marriage idea since girls aren’t finding him attractive.
I’m happy her husband got humbled, and she really needs to come up with an exit plan. Her husband is horrible, as well as financially abusive. How is she supposed to come up with rent money if she doesn’t have a job?
Hopefully, she has family members who can let her move in with them and help her get away from her husband, because that needed to happen like yesterday.
What advice do you have for her?
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