He Confronted His Wife For Using Her Pregnancy As An Excuse To Be Extra Rude To Him, But She Told Him This Is Her True Self
Pregnant women have to go through so much, with all of the major changes happening to their bodies that affect their moods and demeanors.
Growing a human being is hard, and pregnant women should be allowed to be a bit more selfish in order to take care of themselves and rest.
But one man is convinced that his wife has been using her pregnancy as an excuse to be extra rude to him, and he’s getting tired of it.
He’s 35, and his 29-year-old wife is three months pregnant with their first child. They’ve been married for four years and have been together for six years in total.
His wife is East Asian and has lived in many different countries in that region before settling with him in his home city of London, England.
They’re very busy people as they both work corporate jobs. In addition, he has a small business that he runs on the side.
With everything going on, his wife has been struggling with her pregnancy. She’s been dealing with a lot of nausea and discomfort.
Recently, his wife has been complaining to him and tells him he doesn’t do enough to help her around the house.
“I am very happy to help and do chores like washing up, vacuuming, cleaning, and groceries without her asking,” he explained.
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“However, she has a way of requesting other things that really bothers me.”
His wife has become very passive-aggressive with him. For instance, instead of asking them to please clean their bathroom, she’ll start complaining and gets snappy, saying things like “the toilet smells” until he cleans it up.
If he doesn’t pick up on what his wife wants immediately, she starts insulting him and tells him he’s not a good enough husband. His wife has also told him he should always know what she wants him to do.
The other day, he asked her if she could be more polite in how she speaks to him. He wanted her to stop ordering him around and told her he’d be more likely to help her if she said ‘please’ and ‘thank you.’
He reminded his wife that it doesn’t take much to be kind, and a change in his demeanor would benefit them both. However, his wife was not pleased with his suggestion.
She started crying and told him she was just being her real self. Then, she surprisingly told him she wished he could be like a programmed robot that would do anything she told him to.
He’s been baffled about all of this, considering that when she’s around friends and family, she’s nothing but polite and sweet, even during her pregnancy.
“As her husband, I get her ‘real self,’ which is negative, demanding, distant, and always impolite,” he said.
When he asked her why she’s been treating him differently than everyone else, she started using her heritage as an excuse.
She told him that women usually treat their husbands this way in her culture. Then, she told him she should’ve married a man with the same background as her because he couldn’t handle her negativity due to his Western upbringing.
He’s starting to realize that her behavior will not be temporary due to her pregnancy and that he might have to continue dealing with her demands for the rest of their marriage.
How should he try and resolve things with his wife?
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