If your parent allowed their spouse’s daughter to bully you throughout your childhood, would you ever want to have a relationship with them as an adult?
This 19-year-old girl was just two when her mom and dad got divorced and went on to share custody of her equally. When she was five, her mom met her current husband, who had two daughters (who were a year older and younger than her).
Throughout the two years that her mom dated her new husband, they did a lot of family activities together so they could all try to bond.
“At the time, I told my mom I felt like I was being excluded by his daughters, and it didn’t feel like we were sisters. My mom told me that it was my shyness talking, and she promised they loved me and we’d be sisters,” she explained.
“During the wedding, her husband’s daughters pushed me into the drinks table and stepped on my dress, and when we were asked to take a photo together, they stepped in front of me so I couldn’t be seen.”
“When it was time for a photo of my mom, her husband, and the three of us, they refused to stand in the middle with me. I think I spent most of the wedding in tears, and by the end of the night, my mom realized I was not getting over it super fast, and she told me not to stress because they were struggling with the wedding because their mom wasn’t happy, and we’d be back to normal when it was all over.”
But that never happened. Following the wedding, these girls kept on being mean to her. They would leave a room any time she would enter.
They made fun of her learning disability and frizzy hair. They excluded her from games they played with other kids in the neighborhood. These girls refused to sit next to her in the car or at the dinner table.
Her dad actually came to her defense, but sadly, her mom just didn’t listen to what he had to say. Her dad attempted to change the custody agreement so she could be with her mom on those days the girls were not home, but the judge didn’t agree to that.
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Once, she went back to her dad’s house with 5 pieces of gum stuck to her hair, courtesy of the girls. Her dad had to take her to get her hair cut, and then the girls mocked her new look.
Her mom laced into her dad after he screamed at her for not doing anything to protect her from the girls, who were relentlessly bullying her.
“Other things they did were mess with (break or hide) my stuff, and they would steal stuff they knew I really liked. The younger girl stole my favorite dress and gave it to one of her friends,” she added.
“They would spill drinks on my homework when I was almost finished. They even did it to my laptop when I had almost all my assignments done, and it was always intentional.”
“Their dad never wanted to hear me talk about his daughters, and my mom would keep telling me it was all going to be fine, and they loved me, but had a hard time showing it.”
Five years ago, on a family vacation, marked the scariest thing that the girls did to her. They were made to all go exploring together, but the girls ditched her, and she was lost for the entire day.
She blames her mom, actually, and she also overheard the girls joking about how she might be dead. Her dad addressed all of this in court, and still, the judge would not change the custody agreement.
Then, one weekend, her mom and her husband went away to attend a wedding. The girls locked her out of the house without her phone or belongings.
“It was raining, and I had to sleep out there and everything. A neighbor saw me the next morning, and she let me into her house, and I called my dad that way, and yeah,” she continued.
“Between that and my age when it happened, I was allowed to just outright live with my dad. My mom cried at the time and asked to see me for lunch and stuff, but I told her no, and my dad told her [off].”
“She went quiet for a few years and now has apologized, and she has asked me for a second chance to have a relationship with me. But I don’t know. She let me down so bad, and even if she is sorry, I don’t know that I will ever forgive her or trust her to want her in my life.”
She’s so lucky she has a great dad, but her mom is the absolute worst, and she doesn’t deserve another chance. She should cut her mom out of her life completely for not protecting her.
Her mom already made her choice, and she wasn’t it.
Do you think she should give her mom another chance?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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