She’s Considering Divorcing Her Husband, But Her In-Laws Are Accusing Her Of Abandoning Him After He Helped Her Advance Her Career
This 39-year-old woman has been with her husband, who is 52, for 17 years. They have also been married for 15 years, and she believed their relationship had stood the test of time– despite various challenges.
As a child, she grew up in a broken family and was forced to handle a bunch of responsibilities. For instance, she cared for her younger sister and elderly grandmother, and she was also the breadwinner in their household.
That’s why she always longed for a sense of normalcy and stability. And after she met her husband and her in-laws– who were very close-knit– she thought she had finally found somewhere she could feel safe and secure.
Since then, however, her marriage has been anything but stable. Apparently, her husband formed a pretty close relationship with one of his female coworkers. And afterward, the other woman was regularly present in their lives.
For instance, her husband confided in his coworker about issues and appeared to prioritize the other woman over her in their marriage.
“And due to my parents’ abandonment, I struggle with feeling unworthy. I fear losing the one bright spot in my life, which was my husband,” she revealed.
That’s why, following her husband’s emotional absence, she began to channel all of her focus and energy into her career. She started logging long hours and working diligently to achieve her goals.
Since then, she has risen to a position where she now earns more money than her husband. At the same time, her career has become her main source of motivation and purpose.
Just a few years ago, however, her relationship took a serious turn for the worst. At that point, she found out her husband had been cheating on her throughout their entire marriage. And obviously, she felt both heartbroken and betrayed.
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“But as I began to uncover everything, I found an unexpected strength within myself. I realized that my husband’s infidelity was never my fault, and I was no longer going to let his actions define my worth,” she explained.
So, she wound up accessing her husband’s text messages, emails, and credit card expenses. Then, she was able to piece together all of the evidence before confronting him.
After she approached her husband, she also had a “moment of courage” and decided to kick him out of their house.
That’s why, even though she still feels angry about what happened to this day, she still feels stronger for facing everything head-on.
“I am no longer defined by my husband’s actions, and I am grateful for the strength that I found within myself during those difficult times,” she underscored.
She and her husband did eventually reconcile their situation, though. They sought out professional help and attended marriage counseling. Afterward, they wound up getting back together.
And despite the fact that her husband insisted his relationship with his female coworker had been purply platonic, he still distanced himself from the other woman.
Anyway, that’s why she and her husband were able to eventually move on. But, just a few days ago, she found herself in another suspicious situation.
Apparently, while her husband was asleep, she saw a text notification pop up on his phone. But unfortunately, the notification did disappear before she got a chance to read it.
So, she decided to confront her husband about the text. And at that point, he admitted the message had come from a woman he had spoken to a while ago. He also claimed to have blocked her and deleted the text already.
Obviously, however, that just made her feel angry and uneasy. Then, she even started discussing a potential divorce, to which her husband just apologized.
Still, she is honestly struggling to understand how she could ever fully trust him again– which is why she’s finally come to the conclusion that she wants to get a divorce before she turns 40 years old.
“I know it may feel too late, but I feel I have done enough for him,” she vented.
Although, her husband and her in-laws all know about her plan, too. So, they have begun pressuring her to remain in the marriage and have implied that she would just be abandoning him if she got a divorce.
On top of that, they claimed that her husband was the reason for all of her career success. That’s why her husband’s family believes that she is just abandoning her husband for a “better lifestyle” after getting his help landing a good job.
So, even though she doesn’t know if it’s worth it to remain in her unhappy marriage, she’s been left wondering whether divorcing her husband would be the wrong thing to do since he was the reason for her career success.
Even if a partner helps you achieve career success, does that give them the right to treat you however they wish? Did she advance her career because of her husband or in spite of him? Do you think she should do what’s best for herself now? How would you handle this situation?
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