She’s Detailing 15 Things She’s Learned About Having A Healthy Relationship
The satisfaction that you feel when you finally settle into a good, healthy relationship is unlike any other. Finally, you can now see how all of your other relationships that fell apart before were toxic.
This is exactly what TikToker Gia, @giaaldisert, explains in her video detailing the 15 things that she’s learned about relationships after being in a healthy one for so long.
“For context,” she started, “I’ve been with my boyfriend for about six years, and we’ve never broken up and we do have a healthy relationship.”
The first tip that she gives is probably the most important one that every relationship expert also gives to couples: communication is key.
“Communication is everything,” she said. “If you don’t know how to communicate, you’re never going to be able to work through things and progress together.”
Going along with open communication is being willing to tell your partner everything.
“Number two, you guys should both be an open book,” she said. “There shouldn’t be an issue with having each other’s location and having each other’s passwords.”
It’s important to communicate and be aware of each other’s presence. That being said, you shouldn’t let that control your lives so much that you don’t have any separation from each other whatsoever.
“Number three is one of the most important things,” she said. “You must be able to have your own individual lives. You need to have your own friends and career path. You can’t be life-dependent on this person.”
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Numbers four and five go hand in hand, since they both deal with leaving each other. Her fourth tip is to “never leave without saying goodbye,” because “you never know what could happen,” and her fifth tip is to “never threaten to break up unless you mean it, or else they’ll never take you seriously.”
If you’ve got long-term plans for your relationship, and see yourself getting married to them one day, you’re definitely going to want to do a trial-run with them first. This is the sixth thing that she learned.
“If you guys don’t work well living together, it’s not going to work,” she said. “How are you going to be married to somebody you can’t live with?”
Adaptability and compromise are key in relationships, and are often what sets apart the bad, short-term relationships from those that are strong and long-lasting.
“You have to change with your partner and be willing to try new things,” she said. “Neither of you guys are the same person that you were when you started dating, so you have to be open to that change.”
If you’ve gotten the third step right, then you’ve also got to stick to her eighth tip. You can’t have one without the other.
“Don’t be controlling,” she said. “Let each other go out and have fun with their friends. If you prevent your partner from going out and doing normal, fun things their age, they’re literally going to have so much resentment towards you.”
The ninth tip is more fun, and is more about self care for your relationship, so that your lives never get boring.
“Consistently go on date nights,” she said. “Don’t let each other get comfortable.”
Number ten is something that should just be a natural reaction to have for your partner if you’re actually devoted to them and their wellbeing.
“Be supportive of all of their successes,” Gia said. “Celebrate your person!”
Her next two tips, again, fit well together and essentially get down to the same point: don’t be hot-headed. Number eleven is to “allow yourself to cool off before confronting an argument,” because “it is beyond unproductive to be talking when you’re all riled up.”
Number twelve is about not keeping things inside that you are annoyed about with your partner because it’s just better to “talk about it when you’re feeling it.”
A lot of her tips have to do with arguments that you may have with your partner, and how it’s really better to not be impulsive. Number thirteen is no different.
“Don’t yell,” she said. “If you really think about it, why are you guys yelling at each other? It’s just so unnecessary.”
In its entirety, it’s important not to let your relationship get stale. Otherwise, your partner may lose interest and start to pull away. This is why tip number fourteen is so important.
“Reassure your partner daily with words of affirmation,” she said. “Just because you guys have been together for a while, doesn’t mean you can stop showing your partner love and complimenting them.”
Finally, the fifteenth tip that she has once again has to do with solving arguments and any disagreements that you may have in the most efficient way possible.
“If you’re in an argument, get to the root of the problem,” she said. “Genuinely try to understand where your partner’s coming from.”
If you choose to follow some, or all, of Gia’s tips, you might just find yourself in a long term healthy relationship too.
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