Do you know someone who always uses the same excuse anytime they’re caught doing something bad?
One teenager recently had to scold her sister after she continuously used the fact that she’s adopted as an excuse for her bad behavior.
She’s 17 and has a 15-year-old sister named Leah. She and Leah are both adopted. She is the daughter of her parents’ close family friends and was adopted when her birth mom passed away. Leah was adopted through a closed adoption, so she knows nothing about her birth mom.
Although Leah doesn’t know anything about her birth parents, their adoptive parents have always done their best to reassure her that they loved her dearly but didn’t have the means to care for her.
Since she and Leah entered high school, Leah has been having some major academic and behavioral struggles.
“Leah has constantly been stealing other people’s work,” she explained.
“Multiple teachers have requested parent meetings because Leah does not contribute in groups and plagiarizes from her classmates by taking pictures of their work without permission and copying. Leah always uses the fact that she’s adopted and doesn’t know her birth mom as an excuse.”
Her parents have tried reasoning with Leah and have offered to pay for her to see a therapist, but they haven’t made any progress. She’s tried to have much more serious talks with her sister, reminding her that she won’t be able to get into college like she had planned if she keeps messing up in school.
Last week, things got worse when Leah had to take a chemistry final in school. As a reward for her class’s good behavior, her chemistry teacher allowed them to use a page of notes during the test.
Leah decided to steal another student’s notes page, and the student reported her to her teacher. Leah tried to claim the notes were hers, but they were clearly written in another student’s handwriting.
Instead of giving Leah an automatic zero, her chemistry teacher was kind enough to offer her another chance to take the test.
However, Leah didn’t study before retaking it, and she flunked it. She got a D in chemistry, which meant she’d have to retake the course in summer school.
Their family planned a week-long summer vacation, and they’re still going to go, but Leah will have to stay behind with her grandparents to go to summer school. Leah began ranting and raving to her about how her teacher was a jerk, and the student she stole the notes from shouldn’t have told on her.
She got fed up with Leah blaming everyone but herself for what happened in school and reminded her that she had a chance to make things right. That’s when Leah started talking again about how all of her issues stem from being adopted and not knowing her birth mom.
Irritated with Leah’s excuses, she told her to “get over” being adopted and stop using it as an excuse for how she behaves. It was something she had been wanting to tell her sister for a while.
“Leah ran to her room, and our parents said I went too far because Leah’s already been punished, and it’s a sensitive topic for her,” she recalled.
Was she too harsh with her sister or telling her something that needed to be said?
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