The “Let Them Theory” Serves As A Great Reminder To Let Go Of Things Out Of Your Control
Do you often find yourself struggling with things that are out of your control?
For instance, when your friends decide to get together without you or when someone doesn’t want to go out and do something with you, it hurts. I know that when I feel excluded or unwanted due to other people’s actions, I struggle not to look for a way to blame myself.
However, a recent mindset and theory that has been going viral on social media serves as a great reminder to let go of things out of your control. It’s called the “Let Them theory.”
Podcaster Mel Robbins (@melrobbins) recently went viral on TikTok with her explanation of the Let Them theory, and many users have been thanking her for introducing them to the idea.
It’s as simple as this – when someone isn’t showing up for you the way you hoped they would let them.
“The next time you feel left out, your friends all go out to brunch together, and they don’t invite you, let them,” says Mel.
“Maybe the person you’re dating doesn’t want a commitment. Let them.”
All of these scenarios are things people do that are most often completely out of our control. We spend a lot of time in our lives, whether we realize it or not, trying to control people or things and getting disappointed when we can’t.
But this concept of letting people do what they choose without trying to control them can help free you from a negative headspace.
Dmitry Tsvetkov – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“You can tap into peace and true control if you let them be themselves,” says Mel.
“Here’s the other thing – if you let them, people will then reveal who they are. And when they reveal who they truly are to you, you now know what you can choose next that’s right for you.”
Although sometimes this ideology may make you feel lonely, trust the process. Over time, you’ll figure out what makes you feel joy and find people who won’t make you feel like you’re in a one-sided relationship.
The main goal of this concept is to allow yourself to detach from the outcome of other people’s actions and focus on yourself and your choices.
If you’re getting excluded or if someone disappoints you, obsessing over it or stressing yourself out isn’t going to help. Just let those people be and figure out how to control your situation by doing what makes you happy.
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