Her Best Friend Has Struggled With Getting Pregnant, And After She Broke The News To Her That She’s Having A Second Child, Her Best Friend Stopped Speaking To Her
This 30-year-old woman and her husband, 35, are best friends with another married couple, Martha and Joe.
For a long time, Martha and Joe had a wonderful marriage and a beautiful home. They didn’t have children, and for the majority of their marriage, Joe was adamant that he didn’t want to have any children. One of his reasons for not wanting children was because he has health issues that he doesn’t want children to inherit.
But one day, Joe changed his mind, and this upset Martha. Since then, they grew distant, but Martha tried IVF.
The first time, it didn’t work, and the second time, she got pregnant but suffered a miscarriage.
Several years ago, she and her husband were going to have their first child. When her husband broke the news about their pregnancy to Joe, they knew that at the time, Joe didn’t want children of his own, but he was excited for others around him who wanted children.
“Joe said he would tell Martha as he knew how to broach the subject with her. I got a long message from Martha, telling me she needed to take time out and she would speak to me when she was ready. I was happy with this. I knew how she felt about children. Once we had our child, she came back into our lives and was happy around us and the baby,” she said.
From then on, their friendship returned to normal.
Then, a couple of years later, she and her husband were expecting their second child.
One month before the pregnancy, she asked Martha her thoughts and feelings on the idea of her and her husband having a second baby. At this point, Martha was going through IVF, and she said that she would feel better able to cope now. The conversation ended there since she didn’t want to pry too much into a topic that was, understandably, a sensitive subject for Martha.
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Later, she was 12 weeks along in her pregnancy. She and her husband had only told their family and wanted to keep it private for the most part.
“Martha phoned me and told me she had a miscarriage early in a pregnancy, and it would have been around the time I conceived. Because of this, I kept my pregnancy a secret for longer than I’d planned,” she explained.
By 18 weeks, it was becoming more difficult for her to find clothing that would hide her baby bump. Before this, she was able to wear a lot of flowy shirts, but her husband told her that those didn’t seem to be concealing her pregnancy as efficiently anymore.
While brainstorming what to do, she and her husband talked to Joe about the situation to see what his thoughts were. She wondered if she should send Martha a text message to let her know about the pregnancy.
She needed to think of a plan quickly because she and Martha were going on a big shopping trip soon, so she didn’t want Martha to be stunned when she saw how far along she was in her pregnancy. Plus, she thought that texting Martha may be the better option because it could give Martha time to process the news and respond in her own time once she felt comfortable enough to do so.
“I sent a long, detailed message, and I basically told her to contact me when she was ready, and I will leave it down to her once she has had a chance to digest it, as I know the timing wasn’t great for her,” she shared.
Sadly, Martha never texted her back. After 10 months, she messaged Martha to wish her a happy birthday. Martha read the text but didn’t say anything back.
Understandably, she’s saddened that Martha seems unwilling to remain friends despite her trying to be there for Martha through her struggles with fertility. Throughout the years, Martha said that she considered her to be her best friend.
Now, Joe still talks to her husband, but Martha still hasn’t reached out to either of them.
Do you think she broke the news of her pregnancy to Martha in the right way?
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