She Asked Her Sister To Donate One of Her Kidneys To Her, But Her Sister Said No Because of How She Treated Her In The Past
This 30-year-old woman has three siblings, and she is the middle child.
Unfortunately, she and her older sister, 33, don’t get along well, and she believes that a lot of it could be because they have some vast differences in the ways they live their lives.
While she is child-free, has a successful career, and is financially stable, her sister is a single mother with two children, and she has dealt with a lot of struggles throughout the last several years.
Six years ago, her sister was in financial trouble, and she and her children were living at their mother’s house.
Since her sister was having such a tough time saving up money and being able to afford basic necessities, her family asked if she could financially help her sister out.
“My initial response was negative, largely because I felt that my sister was not pulling her weight and was being lazy with our mother,” she said.
Now, her sister is in a much better situation, including financially. Her sister is married, has a stable job, and she and her husband recently had a baby. Her sister and husband have a combined income that is more than what she makes on her own.
On the other hand, she is struggling with her health, and she needs to have a kidney transplant.
“I asked my sister to undergo testing to determine if she could be a potential kidney donor for me. She reluctantly agreed, but her hesitation was palpable. The tests have now confirmed she is the only suitable candidate within our family. Our parents and brother aren’t. However, she is vehemently refusing to go through with the transplant, citing the way I treated her in the past and how I acted as though she was ‘trash,'” she explained.
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While she hadn’t meant to make her sister feel that way, she acknowledges that she had some unfair and harsh views in the past that caused her to judge her sister. She thinks she’s changed a lot since then.
Because she obviously needs a new kidney in order to live, she pleaded with her sister to change her mind and think about donating her kidney. She told her sister she was sorry for how she treated her six years ago when she needed help.
“I have tried to explain that I was wrong and I never meant to hurt her. I want to make amends and save my life, but she’s still refusing,” she shared.
She understands that asking her sister to donate a kidney is not something that should be taken lightly, and she feels horrible for asking in the first place.
When her sister was financially struggling, she never said anything hurtful directly to her sister, and their mother did the best she could to help.
A few nights ago, she messaged her sister and told her that she wouldn’t ask her to donate her kidney anymore. She then told her brother and mother not to ask her sister if she’d change her mind.
Her plan is to do dialysis for as long as possible, and in the meantime, she’s on a waitlist for a kidney.
Due to her health issues, she now has to work part-time hours, and her boss has been extremely supportive.
Her sister feels awful and has a lot of empathy for her, but her sister is afraid of how donating a kidney would impact her health.
Understandably, her sister worries about her children and doesn’t want anything to happen that would negatively impact them.
Also, her sister is still deeply upset about how she didn’t help her several years ago when she needed it most.
In response, she told her sister that she understood where she was coming from, and she hoped that they could work through their issues.
She knows that she cannot force her sister to do something she doesn’t want to, especially with something as serious as this.
Do you think she was wrong to ask her sister to donate a kidney to her?
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