He Chose Staying With His Parents Over Moving In With His Pregnant Girlfriend, Leaving Her To Take Care Of Their Child
This 19-year-old man has been dating his girlfriend, 27, for nearly two years.
This relationship has made him the happiest he’s ever been.
He and his girlfriend met while he was doing an internship at a nursing home in his hometown.
In the country he’s from, students are required to complete an internship in a social field if they wish to pursue a future career in medicine.
His girlfriend was the head of human resources at the nursing home where he was interning, and she was also in charge of managing the interns.
They both got along well right away and had a lot of hobbies and interests in common. In the beginning, he didn’t pay much attention to that.
Unfortunately, he is often critiqued for being too quiet while at work and not sociable enough.
One day, while off work, a resident that he’d been caring for and had developed a bond with passed away.
This news understandably devastated him, and he was heartbroken for quite some time.
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When he confided in other employees at the nursing home, they told him that this was typical and came with this line of work.
“They also told me that I should talk to my instructor about this, as she has a decent amount of work experience and could provide me some closure and comfort. Over the next few weeks, we grew a lot closer, and we connected over shared experiences and trauma. When my internship was reaching its end, I wanted to keep in touch with her, so I gathered the courage to ask for her number,” he said.
She was thrilled and gave him her phone number. Immediately after that, they began texting each other constantly.
Later on, she asked him if he wanted to come over to her place, and when he did, he stayed overnight. They hooked up, and it was his first time being intimate with someone. While she had been intimate with numerous people before, he felt like she made his first time memorable. He thought that the night was special for them both.
Over the next two months, they continued hooking up at her place, and he eventually asked her if she wanted to be his girlfriend.
“She agreed but asked me to keep it private, as she doesn’t like to hear about other people’s relationships, either. I would agree to anything if I could be with her. Fast forward a year. We have moved in together, to the protest of my parents, and had a very healthy relationship,” he explained.
Their relationship was going well, but his parents told him he needed to move back into their house to help take care of his father, who had tragically been in an accident.
Throughout the year that he’d lived with his girlfriend, he had grown distant from his parents. The main reason for this was because his parents didn’t support his relationship.
Due to the tension with his parents, he thought that it was a good idea to move back in with them so that they could hopefully rebuild the bond they’d once had. Plus, he wanted them to have the chance to get to know his girlfriend better. However, they ignored her completely.
His parents’ house was a half hour away from where he’d been previously living with his girlfriend, so he couldn’t hang out with her every day.
At first, she seemed to accept the distance, but one day, she told him that she was pregnant.
He was stunned and felt conflicted about the news. On the one hand, he’d always dreamed of having children one day. But on the other hand, he was so young and didn’t feel ready for parenthood at this time in his life.
During their conversation about her pregnancy, she was pleading with him to move back to her place.
While he didn’t want her to go through the pregnancy completely on her own, she completely brushed aside his worries about becoming a father at such a young age.
“She also never explained how she got pregnant since she is taking the pill, and we didn’t see each other that much either way,” he shared.
After he rejected the idea of moving back in with her and suggested that she end the pregnancy, she stopped talking to him.
Then, she told him that he needed to choose her and their child or his parents, but that he couldn’t keep all of them in his life.
Even though it upset him that his parents didn’t have a good relationship with his girlfriend, he thought this ultimatum was crossing the line.
He acknowledged that he cares for his girlfriend and loves her, but he loves his parents so much, and he’s not at a place in his life where he’s ready to be a father.
After his girlfriend gave him the ultimatum, he was upfront with her and said that he wanted to continue living with his parents for the time being. He hasn’t heard from his girlfriend in several days.
What advice would you give him?
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