She’s Considering Divorcing Her Husband Because She’s Sick Of Him Never Following Through On Anything And Refusing To Take Care Of Himself
This 24-year-old woman and her husband, also 24, have been together for two and a half years.
They have a baby who is nearly 1 year old.
She grew up in the foster care system, and she has so many hopes and dreams for her family.
While she cares for her husband and has a lot of love for him, when she reflects on their relationship, she believes that they rushed into dating and marrying one another.
Unfortunately, she hasn’t been happy with him.
Their relationship has been a constant cycle, and they have repetitive arguments about numerous problems.
The cycle consists of arguments, forgiving each other, and calm for about 12 hours before the cycle repeats itself.
It’s gotten to the point where she doesn’t want to be at the house when her husband is around.
According to her husband, the main problem he has with their marriage is that they aren’t intimate enough. He has repeatedly reminded her that when they first started dating, he expressed that he need intimacy often.
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“I don’t have a problem with that, but there are reasons we haven’t, such as how rough my pregnancy was,” she said.
Plus, there are many other reasons why she doesn’t want to be intimate with her husband.
He only takes a shower before going to work, so that is a lot of why she doesn’t feel like being intimate.
Also, her husband doesn’t do any housework at all, even when he’s the one who makes a mess.
When she asks him to clean, he will for about two days, but after they’ve made up from a fight, he stops cleaning up after himself.
Her husband is also unenthusiastic about their family. He never wants to take family photos together or do family activities, both of which would mean a lot to her. Not only does he not seem to care about their family, but he doesn’t put in effort to care for his own well-being.
Sometimes, she posts photos on social media, and whenever she does, her husband complains about how he’s not in the photos (even though he’s never motivated to take photos together).
While she doesn’t expect her husband to post photos of her or their family every day, it’s upsetting to her that he never posts about her except at times when he was in the wrong during a fight, and knows that he hurt her feelings.
“I’ve always been the breadwinner, and he has TERRIBLE spending habits with cigarettes and fast food, even after I cook or buy groceries,” she explained.
Yesterday, she attempted to carefully and kindly express her concerns to her husband. She told him that he seemed unmotivated and like he was not putting in any effort toward caring for himself. What she really wanted to tell him was that he was “dirty and lazy.”
She gets out of bed at 5 a.m. to exercise, and she works as a teacher, so she is at school from 7:30 a.m. to 3:30 p.m. After that, she comes back home to take care of their son and their dog. Then, she exercises more before all of her nighttime responsibilities. After that, she does some work before going to sleep.
“He works from 4 p.m. to 11 p.m. and comes home and plays video games until 3 a.m. or 4 a.m. sometimes, and then is ‘too tired’ to do anything with our son during the day while he is home. He says it’s too difficult, and he’s tired. I told him he’s making excuses, which is why he continues these patterns,” she shared.
They were having this discussion before her husband left for work, and after she voiced her opinions, her husband was furious. For the first time in their relationship, he name-called her. He told her she was a jerk, and then he slammed the door shut as he walked out of the house to go to work.
She’s miserable in this marriage. Rightfully, she knows this isn’t the type of treatment she deserves from a partner. She doesn’t want to spend any more time in this relationship, hoping for her husband’s behavior to improve, only to wish she’d left him sooner.
Constantly, she feels envious when she sees happy families while out and about or men proudly displaying their love for their partners publicly.
At the same time, she feels awful for their son.
What would you do if you were in her shoes?
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