In May of last year, this woman’s 48-year-old brother just didn’t go home one evening. Then, out of nowhere, he informed his wife of 17 years that he had fallen in love with someone else and was leaving their family!
At the time, her brother and sister-in-law had two kids together– a 15-year-old daughter and a 12-year-old son. And understandably, her sister-in-law, niece, and nephew were all totally shocked.
Then, after her brother left his family, he proceeded to immediately move in with his affair partner before divorcing his wife.
“He generally disregards his kids’ feelings on the situation and generally believes everyone should ‘get over it and move on,'” she revealed.
“He refuses to acknowledge how anyone might be hurt by his actions and certainly has never apologized to his kids.”
According to her, her brother didn’t just treat his own family poorly, either. He also treated their own parents badly, too.
Apparently, he is always disrespectful and rude to their parents, and since separating from his wife, his behavior has only gotten worse.
For instance, despite everything that happened, her mom still makes an effort to be nice to both her brother and his affair partner. And whenever her mom sees them, she always goes to say hello.
However, if her brother sees their parents, he never goes to talk to them. And if her parents don’t initiate a conversation, he gets angry at them– even though, most of the time, they just didn’t know he was even there.
As for herself, she and her other siblings haven’t had much of a relationship with her brother– even prior to the affair.
“We feel all efforts to remain in touch and connected have been one-sided and not returned on his end,” she admitted.
Plus, ever since finding out about the affair, she and her siblings have spent a lot of time trying to support her niece and nephew while maintaining minimal-to-no contact with her brother.
“My sister and I have both expressed how hurtful he has been– she was nicer than me– and have since been no contact,” she explained.
“My brother has not made any contact with any of us, my other brother included, but will tell his children we are terrible because we haven’t reached out to him to see how he’s doing.”
Despite all of this tension in the family, her mom still invited her brother to Thanksgiving this year. Yet, the real kicker is that he’s also bringing his affair partner and his affair partner’s kid! She doesn’t think that’s right, either, and wants to tell her brother not to bring his mistress. She believes it’s simply too soon and a bad idea.
However, her mom is worried that, if they do that, her brother will cut contact with the whole family and keep his kids away.
“It’s definitely a terrible, difficult situation,” she vented, “And no choices feel good.”
Still, she can’t help but wonder if telling her brother not to bring his affair partner to Thanksgiving would be justified or really the wrong thing to do.
How would you feel if your brother treated his ex-wife and kids like that? Would you even want him at Thanksgiving, let alone his affair partner? Do you think she should tell her brother not to bring his mistress? What would you do?
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By Katharina Buczek
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