Her Husband Purposely Excludes Her Kids When Planning Vacations, And She Just Doesn’t Want To Go Away Without Them
This woman and her husband have a 3-year-old daughter together.
Also, she has a 14 and a 16-year-old from her previous marriage.
For a while, her husband has been organizing vacations for the two of them to take with their daughter, but not including her teenagers on these trips.
“I asked him to stop making plans that do not include all of us,” she said.
In response, her husband told her that he planned trips for only him, her, and their child because her two teenagers were busy with school.
She acknowledged that this is true, but over time, she’s begun to realize that her husband purposely plans for them to take vacations while her children are in school.
In her view, it’s clear that this isn’t just a coincidence.
Currently, she is a stay-at-home mother and sometimes works at her husband’s company when he needs some extra help.
Her husband is the breadwinner for their family and the only one providing a steady income.
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“He says that since he is paying for the vacation, he sees no problem with getting to enjoy time off when he wants to,” she explained.
After her husband told her this, she responded, expressing that it’s not fair to leave her children out of these trips all the time.
Then, he said that if she wants to make sure her teenagers are included in their vacations, she should ask her ex-husband, her children’s father, to foot the bill for them to be able to come with.
Occasionally, her teenagers have the chance to come on vacation with them, but her husband still manages to find a way to exclude them.
“My two teens are hurt by it because they want to go, and they feel left out. When we fly, he sits us three (himself, me, and our 3-year-old) in first class and sits my other two anywhere he can get a cheap seat,” she shared.
She is positive that if their daughter was older than about 10 years old, her husband would have no qualms with paying for her to fly first class with them.
While she understands that a lot of teenagers can be unruly, her children are polite and kind.
In her view, her husband stopped tolerating her children once she had their daughter, and her husband doesn’t even seem to like her children at all.
During the conversation with her husband, she made it clear that she didn’t want to go on a trip without her children.
The idea of a trip with just her and her husband is appealing, but she thinks it’s cruel to purposely leave her children out of their plans altogether.
Plus, she believes it’s unfair to be forced to ask her children’s father to be the one to pay for them to come on any future trips.
Even though she could try to get part-time work so that she could pay for her children to travel with the rest of the family, her husband doesn’t help take care of their daughter, so she wouldn’t have much open availability if she were to get a part-time job.
Now, she’s wondering if she’s being overdramatic because she’s the mother in this dynamic and just cares more than a father would.
What advice would you give her?
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