Her Stepmom Accused Her Of Hating Her And Ruining Everything Since She Doesn’t Have Any Of Her Stepmom’s Wedding Photos Displayed In Her Home
When this 27-year-old woman was only 8-years-old, her mother sadly passed away. Her brother was 5 when their mother died.
Over the following six years, their father devoted his time to raising them, and he didn’t go out on any dates.
However, when she was 14, their father told them that he felt ready to start dating again.
“He explained to us that it would not replace our mom, but he felt ready to find someone to share his life with again,” she said.
She and her brother felt conflicted about the idea, and they expressed their feelings to him.
Despite feeling uncertain, they also told him that they wanted him to find happiness.
Later, all three of them attended therapy together, and their therapist told their father how she and her brother would have a multitude of conflicting feelings in their grief journeys.
“She said that our love for him would always mean we wanted his happiness, but that our love for our mom would mean we wouldn’t share the same level of joy as him,” she explained.
In response, their father asked their therapist about this, and she told him that the expectations would be for her and her brother to be respectful toward the person their father dated, and it would be wonderful if they liked his potential partner, but other than that, their future relationship with the person their father chose to date was unpredictable.
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Also, their therapist made sure to tell their father not to assume that her and her brother’s relationship with the person he dates one day is in any way reflective of their relationship with him or of his parenting.
Their therapist told her and her brother to be open-minded. She said that if they had a tough time accepting that their father was dating someone new, and if they were upset if he decided to get married again one day, they could journal about their feelings or talk to someone they trusted who wasn’t their father.
She added that they should also continue openly communicating with their father and letting him know what they’re feeling, but that it could be beneficial for them to have someone else to lean on during difficult times while they’re coping with their father dating.
Eventually, their father met Beth, whom he had been married to for 11 years.
Beth is a widow with children, and her late husband passed away several years before she met their father.
However, Beth had an unhealthy relationship with her late husband, which was unlike their father’s relationship with their mother. She believes that this is the reason there have been some issues.
When she moved out of her father’s house, she asked if she could have copies of a few photos from his wedding to her mother, and he happily allowed her to.
“I have a couple of them on display in my home, and others I keep in a little treasure album I put together,” she shared.
“Beth and Beth’s youngest child are upset that I display photos from my parents’ wedding and not her and my dad’s wedding.”
A few months ago, Beth had a discussion with her about this, claiming that if she had a photo from each of the weddings, she and her children would feel accepted and welcomed into the family.
She responded, telling Beth that it brought her joy to look at photos of her parents’ wedding, and she hadn’t meant to hurt her or her children’s feelings. But she emphasized that she would be keeping the photos up and not switching any of them out.
Last week, Beth let her father know what was going on, and he hadn’t been involved in the situation up until this point.
When he heard about it, he called her and asked if Beth had talked to her about the wedding photos.
She told her father that she had, and he told her he was sorry.
Continuing, she explained that Beth told her to switch out one of the photos to display a photo of Beth and her father’s wedding.
When Beth talked to her, she’d also told her she believed that she and her brother were unsupportive because they didn’t seem happy when she married their father.
“She accused me of hating them, and she told me that this was ‘our happily ever after,'” she continued.
Beth claimed that she was walking all over her marriage and ruining everything.
What would you do if you were in her shoes?
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