He’s Not Sure How To Tell His Children That The Reason He Got Divorced From Their Mom Was Due To His Infidelity
Exactly two years ago, this 40-year-old man and his 40-year-old wife got divorced. His wife learned that he had been cheating with a 29-year-old woman, and she promptly filed the paperwork to end their marriage.
He has since gone on to seriously date his affair partner, and he and his now ex-wife split in a pretty amicable way.
As they were breaking up, his ex-wife said to him that they should not tell their children the reason behind the divorce.
His daughters are currently 12, 15, and 17, and they still don’t know why he and his ex-wife split up.
A year back, he and his girlfriend decided to rent a place within walking distance from where his ex-wife lives so that he could be closer to his girls.
Although he and his ex-wife have a custody agreement that calls for 50/50, that hasn’t always happened since he moved super close to his ex-wife.
His girls come and go between his house and his ex-wife’s house whenever they feel like it, so that’s blurred the lines of the custody agreement.
Lately, his girlfriend has developed a problem with his girls dropping by unannounced. She hates that his girls come over without asking for permission first, resulting in him and his girlfriend having zero free time without the girls around.
His girlfriend has requested that he create boundaries with his girls and tell them they aren’t allowed to come to his house if it’s supposed to be his ex-wife’s week unless they get permission.
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He replied back to his girlfriend that he’s not doing that since he’s the one paying for all of their living expenses, so he’s not going to make his girls feel unwelcome in his home.
“She then made the comment that maybe they wouldn’t want to come over anymore if they knew what I had done and with whom,” he explained.
“I’ve decided it’s time for them to know the truth. I can’t have this threat hanging over me. How can I do this? What do I say? Do I involve a third party?”
“Should their mom be there? I just don’t know how to admit I blew up all our lives for nothing. Has anyone gone through this with their father and came out with an intact relationship?”
As for his girlfriend, he says breaking up with her over this is out of the question, and that she will tell his girls the truth regardless if they are together or not.
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