His Ex Cheated On Him Two Months After They Got Engaged Yet Still Wanted Him To Pay Child Support For Her Kid, Who Wasn’t His

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This man’s ex-girlfriend, who is 28-years-old, had a child with a different guy before they started dating. But, when he began a relationship with her, he never viewed that as an issue.

“And when I got serious, she asked to move into my house with the child, and I was happy about that,” he recalled.

Then, throughout their whole relationship, he made sure to treat his ex-girlfriend’s kid as if they were his own. He footed the bill for everything– from health insurance to tutoring, sports, and club fees.

At the same time, his ex received $389 each month in child support from her kid’s biological father.

“And the biological father saw the child maybe once a month,” he added.

Then, two years into their relationship, he and his ex-girlfriend actually had their own baby together, and it felt like they were just one big happy family.

They even began discussing the idea of marriage. The plan was that, once they tied the knot, he would legally adopt his ex’s first child. The child’s biological father was okay with that, too.

So, he finally proposed to his ex-girlfriend, and they were preparing for their big day. But, just two months after he popped the big question, he realized that his ex had been texting another guy and sending steamy photos.

“I was crushed,” he admitted, “And I asked her to move out of my house.”

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After kicking his ex out, he offered to give her $1,600 a month to cover the expenses for his biological child. His ex also started working a part-time job, earning minimum wage.

Rather than accepting his offer, though, she thought that he should have to pay another $1,600 for her other kid– who is not his biological child.

Her reasoning? Well, her ex-girlfriend expected him to do that since he claimed he was going to adopt the child once they got married.

But he refused to shell out that much money because he never actually adopted his ex’s eldest child.

“So, she took me to child support, hoping to get more money,” he revealed.

Things didn’t go according to his ex-girlfriend’s plan, though, because instead of getting him to pay more money, she inadvertently got her payments for their one biological child decreased from $1,600 per month to $700 per month.

That’s why, for the last three months, he’s only been giving her the mandated $700– with no additional money for her eldest child.

But now, after reflecting on everything that happened, he can’t help but wonder if refusing to help support his ex-girlfriend’s older child as well was really the wrong thing to do.

Do you think he should feel obligated to help support his ex’s eldest kid if he never went through with the adoption? Did his ex get what she deserved after cheating on him? What would you have done in his shoes?

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Katharina Buczek graduated from Stony Brook University with a degree in Journalism and a minor in Digital Arts. Specializing ... More about Katharina Buczek

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