To me, generosity is one of the most attractive qualities someone can have. So if you went on a few dates with someone who always took home your leftovers to eat, would you think that’s a sign of being cheap, and not generous?
This woman has been on a few dates with a guy who is extremely slow to pull his wallet out and pay, and she picked up on that quickly after only going out with him twice, but she did keep on seeing him anyway.
Then they went out for drinks on two different nights, and she paid for his beverages both of those times, as he didn’t even attempt to pay for anything.
For the date that followed that, she went to a local barbecue restaurant and ordered takeout, then brought it over to his house to eat with him.
But the first time she felt uncomfortable was when they went out to eat and had Chinese. She ordered a rice dish, while he got a noodle dish.
“He asked if I minded if he took the rice. I thought that was strange. We both got to go boxes. When I was getting out of his car, he grabbed my to-go box from me pretty aggressively,” she explained.
“I thought he had mistaken it for his. He explained that no, that he would give it to me when I left. He never offered. I saw him the next day, and he didn’t offer. He made me dinner at my house. A very small fillet, maybe 2″ x 3″, and a baked potato.”
“I knew he would want my leftovers, so I told him if he wanted the 1/2 potato I didn’t eat and the piece of filet that I didn’t eat, he could have them. He wanted them. I’m already uncomfortable about the food issue when tonight, he asks me out to dinner. He says he will order a hamburger and fries, and we can split it.”
The hamburgers at this restaurant are enormous, and she pretty much hates all hamburgers, so this is not exactly an ideal date for her.
She’s only been seeing this guy for four weeks so far, so she finally told him that they can no longer go on dates, but they can be friends.
She’s concerned that he’s way too cheap for her, and meanwhile, she knows he is not poor, so it’s not like he can’t afford to eat out with her.
He works as an Aerospace Engineer, he owns a house and a car, and he constantly brags to her about the hundreds of thousands of dollars he has in investments. So yes, this guy has the money to go out to eat.
“Do you think I overreacted? He says he can change. We haven’t even [hooked up]. I only see him getting worse over time,” she concluded.
Ok, I think this guy is totally a cheapskate, and I feel embarrassed on his behalf. I think it’s so weird and also alarming that he ripped her to-go box out of her hands. What on earth was that about? I wouldn’t be able to get over that incident.
Cheap people might be able to change, but I don’t think he deserves the opportunity to prove that he can be more generous here, after he snatched her food like that.
Do you believe she was too quick to judge this guy? Do you think cheapskates can change?
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