His Girlfriend Of Eight Years Suddenly Became Very Distant After A Wonderful Trip To Europe, So Now He Wants To Ghost Her Even Though He Owes Her About $5,000 For The Vacation
Two months ago, this man and his girlfriend, who he has been dating for the last eight years, went on a two-week vacation to Europe.
The trip was fantastic, and they had a blast. However, since they got back home, his girlfriend has been keeping her distance.
After returning home, there was an upcoming wedding she was planning to go to, and she had a plus-one.
He only found out about the wedding several days in advance, and it seemed strange that she waited so long to invite him or even tell him about the wedding in the first place.
While he was away on a business trip, his girlfriend never answered the phone whenever he tried calling her, and she didn’t respond to his text messages until he was back home.
“When she finally picked up, I asked her what happened (in a very nonchalant and non-accusatory way), and she didn’t give any sort of solid answer,” he said.
“When I pressed her about it (she always gets upset at me if I don’t call her back, even if it’s just, like, an hour later), she just screamed at me, ‘I didn’t feel like talking to you! How about I never talk to you again?’ and hung up.”
He tried calling her back, but she didn’t answer, and she didn’t reply to the text message he sent her a couple of days later.
Something changed for him during this time, and he felt horrible.
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Over the years, they’ve had a lot of arguments that have been more intense, and he’s always succeeded in resolving their differences because he adores her.
This fight felt different. It felt as if the love they shared disappeared in an instant because her behavior came out of nowhere.
“Three weeks later, she calls me, and I freeze. I don’t pick up. She starts sending angry messages telling me I better pick up ‘or else’ and accuses me of cheating (I didn’t). I don’t pick up because I know it’s going to be an absolutely chaotic phone call,” he explained.
Now, two more weeks have gone by since his girlfriend last contacted him, and he has mostly accepted that their relationship has ended.
During their vacation in Europe, his girlfriend paid for everything because his card charged a foreign transaction fee.
Understandably, this trip was incredibly costly. In total, their vacation was roughly $20,000.
“$10,000 has already been split (stuff we booked before traveling),” he shared.
He hasn’t paid his girlfriend back the rest of the money he owes her, which is about $5,000.
However, he doesn’t know the exact figure. He might need to pay his girlfriend anywhere from $3,000 to $7,000.
Prior to their argument, he told his girlfriend at least three times that they should look through their expenses throughout the vacation to calculate the exact amount he owes her. He suggested that she could even send him her credit card statement so that he could look through it for her to calculate it and pay her back.
Every time he brought this up, she told him they could figure it all out later on.
Despite his girlfriend’s behavior, he feels like he should pay her back. He would do this for anyone regardless of how they treated him, and he makes sure to Venmo people while he’s still hanging out with them.
Now, he feels terrible that he hasn’t paid his girlfriend back yet, but since she has refused to figure out exactly how much he owes her, he doesn’t know how he’s supposed to know how much money to give her.
His plan is to text his girlfriend one more time to tell her that he will pay her back. This way, there’s evidence of him offering to pay back what he owes because every other time he’s had this discussion with her, it’s been during phone calls.
He feels uneasy just guessing how much to pay his girlfriend because he could run the risk of lowballing or giving her more than he needs to.
This amount of money is huge to him, but not to his girlfriend.
So, he’ll try to suggest that they separately look through her credit card statement to figure out the amount she’s owed.
Even though he has no idea what changed in their relationship and why his girlfriend suddenly pulled away after their trip, he knew that his girlfriend hadn’t been expecting a proposal while in Europe.
Over the years, they’ve talked about marriage, but she didn’t want to get engaged yet, and he told her that he would only propose to her when she made it clear that she was ready for an engagement.
What would you do if you were in his shoes?
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