She And Her Husband Got Accused Of Playing Favorites After They Decided To Leave Most Of Their Estate To Their Eldest Daughter Since She’s More Responsible With Money
Sometimes, when you’re a parent with several children and need to decide which one will handle your estate, you have to choose the one who is the most financially responsible no matter what.
One woman and her husband recently decided they’d give most of their inheritance to their eldest daughter instead of splitting it evenly between her and her younger sister because she’s more responsible with money and has been over the last few years.
She’s 52 and has two daughters with her husband, who are 31 and 27.
Her eldest daughter was a wild child growing up. As a little girl, she bounced off the walls and broke the rules. She was a rebellious teenager, which caused her and her husband a lot of stress. However, as she got older and moved out when she was 18, her eldest became a very responsible adult.
Her eldest daughter got her master’s degree in business, worked really hard, and now lives on a farm with her husband and three kids.
Her youngest daughter lives a very different adult life than her sister. She and her husband gave their youngest the same amount of money for college as their oldest, but she spent it all instead of going to school.
“My youngest lives in a camper trailer with her husband,” she said.
“They have five children, and she is pregnant again. They also have several cats and dogs. Both [of them] work, but [they] both have low-paying jobs. [They] refuse to do more.”
She and her husband pay most of their youngest’s bills, including her power, water, car insurance, and phone bills. They don’t want their grandchildren to have to suffer because of their parents being irresponsible, so they contribute whatever they can.
shurkin_son – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Additionally, it seems like her youngest daughter contacts them weekly because they need more money. Her eldest daughter has done the opposite and has never asked her and her husband for money. The most she’s done is ask them to babysit her kids occasionally.
So, when she and her husband recently sat down to plan their wills and arrange what they want to happen to their estate after they pass, they decided to leave most of it in the hands of their eldest daughter.
“Our eldest didn’t say anything about the money and mostly asked questions about what we want her to do, how we want [our] funerals, if we wanted to be buried or cremated, [and] what to do with the estate, etc.,” she explained.
“My husband and I divided out [our] inheritance, and our eldest got most of it. My reasoning is that our youngest has used all of her inheritance in the money we constantly [have] to give her.”
She decided that all of her valuable jewelry would be split between her daughters and that when she and her husband passed, her daughters could sell their house and split the profits evenly.
However, once her youngest discovered what she and her husband decided to do with their estate, she was very upset and accused them of favoring her older sister. Meanwhile, she believes their inheritance should go to her eldest daughter because she hasn’t asked for any of their money in her adult life.
Now, her youngest daughter is no longer speaking to her.
Should she consider splitting her inheritance between her daughters or leave it all to her eldest?
You can read the original post on Reddit here.
Sign up for Chip Chick’s newsletter and get stories like this delivered to your inbox.
More About:Relationships