Here Are Some Personality Traits That Make You Attract Narcissists In Your Love Life
Have you ever looked back on your love and dating life and wondered why you continually were stuck with people who were selfish narcissists?
It’s not a fun realization to have, and unfortunately, many people don’t come to realize they have a habit of dating narcissists until they’re at least three to four relationships or flings in.
However, once you come to that realization, it’s important to start looking inward to try and figure out what draws you to this kind of person. Here are some personality traits that may suck you into dating or getting into relationships with narcissists.
You’re empathetic
Narcissists tend to be drawn towards empathetic people. Why? Because they know you’ll be able to feel and sense their pain, therefore making it easier for them to lure you in with pity parties and sad stories so you can tend to their needs.
Empathetic and kind-hearted people also tend to be the type to forgive easier than others, a trait that narcissists depend on for all the times they’ll do you wrong.
It’s not at all a bad thing to be empathetic, but remember not to let people walk all over you and keep your distance from those who try.
You’re drawn towards challenging people
One thing that many people who keep getting into relationships with narcissists fail to realize is that they may have become addicted to or are subconsciously drawn toward challenging and complicated partners.
Anastassiya – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
It’s easy to become addicted to chaos, and unfortunately, narcissists can smell that from a mile away.
They’ll likely love the idea of you being drawn to their unpredictability. Now is the time to re-evaluate the people who choose as partners and actively step away from the chaos.
You are naïve
There isn’t necessarily anything wrong with being a bit naïve, as it’s part of being a human. However, if you tend to be naïve, then it wouldn’t be surprising if you had the tendency to date narcissists.
You may be blissfully unaware that you’re dating a selfish and egotistical person until it’s too late, and you’ve been hurt.
Be sure to study the signs of narcissism in people and try to be extra observant when you first start dating someone.
You’re accomplished and successful
Let’s face it: narcissistic people are always thinking about themselves and how they can advance themselves to where they want to be most.
If you are an independent, hard-working person who has a great career network and found success, don’t be surprised when some narcissists show up in your DMs.
These people desperately want your success level, maybe even more than they want you. They may try to piggyback off your achievements or simply revel in surrounding themselves with your success. But remember, it’s not their life and accomplishments; it’s yours.
If you’ve found yourself stuck in a bad cycle of dating narcissists, you’re not alone. A lot of people have had the same struggles. Remember to stay vigilant in the dating world and nip bad relationships in the bud before you get too hurt.
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