In Case You Encounter Your Ex Sometime This Winter, Here Are Some Ways To Get Through The Jarring Experience
Although the holidays have passed, many people are still bumping into locals and people from their childhood as the winter season gets stronger. The winter is a strangely nostalgic time of year, and sometimes, we encounter people we aren’t thrilled about seeing.
Some of those people include our exes.
Running into your ex during the winter season, when the cold and bluesy weather makes a lot of people long for a relationship, can be brutal.
If you find yourself walking around your hometown’s streets or seeing your ex out at a bar, here are some ways to get through the jarring experience.
Remember why you’re not with them anymore
Sometimes, when we see our ex unexpectedly, all sorts of feelings rush in, and you may feel like you miss your relationship. As much as you may try to suppress that feeling, it still comes up. However, one of the quickest ways to deflect it is to remember why you broke up with that person.
There’s a reason why your relationship wasn’t working, and it’s important to remind yourself of that reason whenever you see your ex.
Don’t pressure yourself to impress them
When some people see their ex in public, they feel the urge to walk up to them and brag about how great their life has been since breaking up with them. However, that doesn’t always make people feel better, and it’s something you really don’t have to do.
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To keep the peace, consider not even trying to talk to them, or if you do, keep the conversation light and brief.
Think of all the good things you’ve done since breaking up with them
Instead of walking up to your ex and boasting about the great things that have happened since your break up, just quietly think about them and keep it to yourself. Did you learn something new about yourself? Did you become closer to your friends? Did you start working out more?
Reminding yourself of these things is another way of reminding yourself that your breakup was for the best.
Don’t be ashamed of feeling upset when you see them
I’ve seen friends run into exes and have cringed as I’ve watched their other friends yell at them, telling them not to get upset and to remember that they’re a ‘baddie.’
Honestly, if you see your ex in public and start to feel upset, it’s okay. It’s a normal reaction to seeing someone who broke your heart or someone you used to share really good times with who feels like a stranger now.
While feeling sad is okay, try not to let seeing your ex in public destroy you or your week. It can feel painful in the moment, but the goal is to be able to move on and keep growing as a person.
The next time you see your ex in public, stand tall and reach out to a friend or loved one if you need to vent. Remember that there’s a bright future ahead of you, and you don’t need that person in your life to get there. You’ve got this!
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