This 29-year-old woman and her husband, who is 30, have been together for 10 years and married for six years. They currently have a 2-year-old child, and they’ve also been thinking about having another baby.
For some context, her husband has also always been a “bigger man,” and he is much larger than her. However, his size never bothered her in the past, and it still doesn’t.
“He’s always handsome to me, and he’s kind and gentle and is amazing with our daughter, and he’s the man of my dreams,” she explained.
“Looks-wise, I’ve never been bothered by his weight, and he’s never been bothered by mine when my weight has been up and down.”
In fact, she admitted that her body had changed quite a lot over the course of their relationship. Regardless, her husband still always calls her beautiful and makes her feel special.
More recently, though, her husband has gained a bit more weight, and he’s currently the largest he’s ever been. Apparently, he’s just been stressed out due to his job. Her husband also told her in the past that he’s a bit worried about his health because of his weight.
When they discussed the idea of having another baby, that was a few months ago, too. And since then, he’s gained the extra pounds. So, while she loves him and wants to continue creating a family with him, she’s concerned about his future.
“He’s at his biggest, and if I get pregnant again, I worry he won’t even be here to meet his baby,” she admitted.
Aside from that, she’s found that her husband’s larger size is also impacting her own routine more now. For instance, they share a double bed right now, but she claimed it isn’t very big.
So, she’s been unable to sleep through the night since her husband is constantly taking up most of the bed– leaving her really uncomfortable.
“And I’ve started sleeping on the couch, which is also uncomfortable, so I’m not really sleeping well at all. I get maybe two to three hours a night,” she said.
That’s why, yesterday, she decided to confront her husband and ask him if he’d consider losing some weight. At that point, he just became embarrassed, got pretty upset, and asked if she no longer loved him.
She reassured her husband that she definitely still loved him and thought he was “the most handsome man in the world.” But, she straight-up told him that she was worried about his health and that she didn’t want to have another baby if one of them was going to be dealing with health issues at the very same time. Plus, she revealed how she hasn’t been sleeping well anymore, either.
“I also told him that I would help him every step of the way. We’ll go to the gym together, go for more walks, and make an effort to start eating healthier. We’ll do it all together,” she recalled.
Regardless, her husband was still really upset with her– accusing her of not understanding what he’s going through right now and how difficult it is to find the motivation to lose weight.
So now, she can’t help but wonder if asking her husband to lose some weight was really the wrong thing to do.
Do you think she approached the situation in a supportive way? Can you understand why she’s worried about her husband’s future? How would you have handled this situation?
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By Katharina Buczek
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