He Convinced His Wife To Move To His Hometown Temporarily, But Now That She Wants To Move Back, He’s Considering Leaving Her While They’re Trying To Have A Baby
This 32-year-old man’s wife, 30, has 12 siblings, and they all have several children. She is the only one of her siblings who hasn’t had kids.
When he first met his wife’s family members, they all quipped that she wouldn’t have children because she didn’t want to be a parent, adding that she would always be the best aunt in the entire world.
He and his wife almost broke up because he wanted to have children one day, but he decided not to walk away when she told him that she would be content with or without children.
“It’s just never been a priority and something she actively avoided. After a year of dating, she told me that I was the kind of man she could give babies to because she felt comfortable knowing that I would be there for her,” he said.
His wife’s family lives throughout the South, from Florida to Louisiana, while his small family lives near one of the Great Lakes.
Three years ago, he and his wife married. Unfortunately, only a year into their marriage, he learned that his parents were in poor health. He asked if the two of them could move closer to his family for a while, and she was fine with this.
However, his wife said that she didn’t want to start having children while they were living near his family.
She was concerned about the effects of the cold weather on her body, and she believed that they would have to send their children to private schools for them to receive quality education. Plus, she didn’t feel comfortable sending their children to public schools.
The activities his wife enjoys best are during the summer and on the water, so moving from the South to the Great Lakes region meant that she’d only be able to soak up the warm weather for about three months.
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He agreed with his wife’s idea that they would only live near his parents until they decided they were ready to have a baby. At that point, they would move back to the South. In his view, this plan made sense. So, they moved to the Great Lakes.
They have been living near his family for two years. Luckily, the cold weather hasn’t caused as many negative effects on her body.
Still, because of the pollution and water conditions, she hasn’t been able to enjoy outdoor activities as much as she would have preferred. Sadly, his father died recently, and his mother hasn’t been in good shape.
“I have fallen in love with getting to be an uncle to my nieces. I’ve never lived around them before, but it’s the best, and I feel really guilty leaving my sisters after my parents are gone,” he explained.
He and his wife have been trying to have a baby, and they’re waiting to see if she might be pregnant now, which was when he confessed to her that he’d had a change of heart about their original plan.
Instead of moving back to the South to raise children, he wants to continue living in the Great Lakes and wait until they’re retired to move to the South.
“She did not take it well. We fought to the point that she said if I wanted to stay so bad, I could have the kid, and we could stay, and she’d pay child support and have the kid for the summers,” he shared.
After the argument, he didn’t know what to think or how to feel. All he knows is that he’s leaning toward filing for divorce because he doesn’t want to move away from his family, especially when they’re grieving the loss of his father.
What advice would you give him?
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