His Sister Reached Out To Their Birth Family, Asked To Finally Meet, And Got Rejected, So Now She’s Blaming Him For Not Reaching Out With Her And Increasing Their Chances
When it comes to adopted children, some of them grow up with a burning desire to know more about their biological parents, while others are satisfied with not knowing.
One adopted man is currently trying to figure out what to do about his sister, who was adopted by the same family and contacted their biological parents, only to get rejected by them.
He’s 26, and his older sister is 29-years-old. They were both adopted by the same family when he was a baby. He’s in a relationship with his girlfriend and has a son.
“Our lives were happy, though we had one big difference,” he explained.
“She always longed to meet and know about our blood family; I never wanted that. I don’t consider them my family or my parents. To me, my family [are] the people I love and the family I grew up [with]. [I] never [had] the same curiosity my sister had or the same drive to want to find them in the future.”
His adoptive parents knew his biological parents’ names and gave them to him and his sister so they could figure out what they wanted to do. He said no when his sister asked if he’d want to track them down with her.
“My sister started to search for our birth family, and she opened herself to search for any relatives,” he said.
“She found out our birth parents were still close to their families, and she reached out to a bunch of people about wanting to meet. They didn’t respond for months.”
Eventually, his sister heard back from their biological father and one of their aunts, who asked if they were both interested in meeting the family or if she was the only one.
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When his sister said she was the only one who wanted to meet, their biological family went silent again until she finally received disappointing messages saying they had no interest in meeting her and asking her not to reach out again.
His sister was heartbroken and tried a few more times to reach out to more biological family members but got the same response.
After taking some time to process the rejection, his sister began blaming him for the situation. She implied that if he had also tried to reach out to their biological family, they would’ve been able to meet up. But since she did it alone, they rejected her.
Then, his sister asked why he cared so little about the people he was biologically related to.
“I told her it was not something I cared that deeply about,” he remembered.
“I told her I was more concerned with being a good dad and partner than finding strangers and trying to reconnect with them. I told her that our parents, her, my girlfriend and [my] son are my family.”
Still, his sister is angry with him and blames their biological family’s negative reaction to her trying to meet them as his fault.
Did he do anything wrong, or does his sister need to accept what happened?
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