He Threatened To Divorce His Wife If She Doesn’t Agree To Send Their Gifted Daughter To Private School
This 29-year-old man and his 30-year-old wife have a 6-year-old daughter together, but unfortunately, they cannot agree on how to raise her.
Every couple of months, they argue about this, and he finally told his wife if she can’t be on the same page as him and agree to do what he thinks is best for their daughter, he’s filing for divorce.
He says that outside of this main problem, their marriage is wonderful and happy. They don’t disagree on anything and they have tons in common.
His wife has always supported his career, and he has always been supportive of the fact that she never wanted one.
While he loves his wife with all of his heart, he will get rid of her if she stands in the way of their daughter.
Their daughter is gifted, and she can speak multiple languages; she is in a gifted program at school, competes in math competitions, is on the swimming and debate teams, and is learning two different instruments.
“She’s a bright, happy girl, yet she’s being stifled by her current environment,” he explained. “The fact our daughter does these activities is by her own choice; she has asked to do every one and thrives at them. There’s no pressure from me, my wife, or our families for my daughter to succeed, only for her to be happy.”
“I want my daughter to be in an environment with other children like her and to be given the chance to thrive. My wife wants her to be a “normal” 6-year-old.”
Now, his wife was a gifted child and attended college at 16. She has a degree in math from a major university, but she never wanted to have a job or a career.
jozzeppe777 – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual child
His wife’s parents were extremely smart and talented and somewhat pushed his wife into being a protégé.
His wife’s childhood was full of misery, and she struggled with her mental health after being pushed so hard to succeed.
In contrast, he was always intelligent but never considered to be gifted. He didn’t go to college and instead picked a trade school. He feels as if his parents held him back from achieving his full potential.
He believes that because he and his wife were raised so differently, that has come down to them not having the same opinion regarding education.
He and his wife quickly realized how smart their daughter was, and he always wanted to send her to a private school.
His wife declined to sign the required forms to do this, so their daughter had no choice but to go to public school.
His wife felt private school was not worth their money, even though the amount won’t negatively impact their lifestyle.
Their daughter really wants to attend this private school, as her friends from the swim team already go there.
He once again brought this up to his wife, and they got into a blowout fight about it, as his wife still doesn’t want their daughter to go there.
“…I told her that if she doesn’t consent now, I will be forced to ask her for a divorce,” he said. “The only reasons she will state are that it is “a waste of money” and that “school doesn’t matter.”
“My wife has since mobilized my family against me, with my parents and sisters telling me that it’s “not a big deal.”
“This has only caused more conflict to the point where our daughter is feeling left out and is visibly upset from the continuous arguing, to the point she cries; she also wet herself last night after being woken by our arguments.”
He and his wife have a prenup that states he will get full custody of their daughter in the event that they do divorce.
He’s left wondering if he should divorce his wife since she won’t agree with him on sending their daughter to private school.
What advice do you have for him?
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