He Waited Until His Youngest Son Was Heading Off To College To Confess That He’s Had Three Affairs And Ask For A Divorce From His Wife, Who Hasn’t Been Romantic With Him In 13 Years
This 47-year-old guy claims that his wife, who is 50, hasn’t been the same ever since their children were born. In fact, he thought it seemed as though she “hated” him and his presence.
So, once their youngest child entered the world, the romance between them completely died. He actually hasn’t even slept with his wife for a whole 13 years.
For the first three years, he really tried hard to change their dynamic, too. But, even after going to therapy, no improvements were made.
“So, I just accepted my fate, and I did start cheating casually after three years of dead bedroom– which never really fulfilled me,” he recalled.
Since then, he has engaged in “three full-blown affairs” behind his wife’s back, and for the last decade, he has been living a double life.
As for why he didn’t just divorce his wife, he claimed that he never wanted his children to be raised by another man.
“And we did make very good parents, just not good husband, and wife,” he added.
Now that his son is 17-years-old, though, he believes it is finally time to leave his unhappy marriage. That’s why he wound up confessing everything to his wife and telling her about all of his affairs. In the same breath, he also asked for a divorce.
His wife was both shocked and very hurt by the truth, too, which actually really surprised him.
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“Because I could have bet my kidneys that she was planning to leave me, too,” he admitted.
Then, perhaps even more surprisingly, his wife’s demeanor and behavior toward him completely changed after the initial shock wore off.
Apparently, his wife is suddenly super interested in being romantic with him, and all she wants to do is hook up with him every day.
She’s become super affectionate, doesn’t want him to leave, and has actually promised to be as romantic as he wants.
Still, the main problem is that he really doesn’t love his wife anymore. On top of that, she’s been blaming him for not informing her that their lack of a love life was such a problem for him, and he just doesn’t get it.
“My bad, maybe I should have taken her to therapy regarding [it]. Oh wait a minute, I [freaking] did,” he vented.
Regardless, he claimed that none of it even matters anymore since he stopped loving his wife years ago. And even though she’s open to going to therapy now, he believes it’s “too little too late.”
Nonetheless, he still can’t help but wonder if deciding to leave his wife as soon as their youngest child goes off to college is really the wrong thing to do.
Can you understand why he didn’t want to leave while his kids were young? At the same time, is it just as hurtful for him and his wife to drag out a dead relationship? How do you suggest he handles this situation?
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