Her Husband Wants Her To Sign A Postnup Since She’s A Stay-At-Home Mom Who Didn’t Support His Career
This woman and her husband have been married for eight years, and they have three little children together, who are two and six.
Back when she and her husband started dating, they both were super broke. After they got married, her husband set to work on his career.
When she gave birth to their six-year-old, she gave up working full-time, and when her youngest was born, she became a stay-at-home mom.
Her husband has been able to create an incredibly successful career for himself to date, and she’s extremely proud of his accomplishments.
But he keeps asking her to sign a postnup, and she continues to turn him down.
“His reasoning for the postnup is that he has worked very hard to get where he is, and his income will go up significantly over the next several years,” she explained.
“He handles most of our finances and all of our investments (he’s a financial advisor) and says that he is making sacrifices now so that he can have a great retirement later. And if we were to split up down the road, he would have to work much longer and basically have to start over on those investment accounts if we had to split everything evenly by then.”
“He says he did this himself and that I didn’t support him, so he thinks that he should get to keep the majority of his earnings and investments. I’m irritated and hurt that he thinks I haven’t supported him in his career. When I asked him why he thinks that, he said it was because I never went out and got referrals or sent people his way to invest money with him.”
To her, caring for their home and raising their children is how she feels she has been able to support her husband.
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If their kids are sick, her husband never has to take time off work to make sure they’re alright. He also doesn’t have to be concerned with all of the things that go into running their household or parenting their kids on a daily basis.
Her husband does help out a bit, but the extent of that is tucking their kids into bed or putting leftovers from dinner into boxes.
It’s not that much of a help to her when her husband picks up these small tasks, but he does also do some other things like shovel snow or feed their dogs.
Anyway, she’s a mom, and she doesn’t know anyone interested in investing, so there’s no way she could help her husband directly with his business. She only spends time with other stay-at-home moms.
It’s also confusing to her that her husband says to her that she should be staying home with their children at this point in time. They both came to this agreement, and her husband only wants her to go back to work when both their children can be in school on a full-time basis.
“He already talked to a lawyer and proposed splitting our assets as they are right now 50/50; he would pay off the cars, and he would either sell or buy me out of the house along with a certain monthly payment,” she said.
“Am I being unreasonable that I do NOT want to sign this? I think it’s unreasonable that he wants me to sign this now and not even later on when I’m at least working. I also feel so unappreciated.”
“It’s very clear that because the work I do for our family doesn’t come with a paycheck, it doesn’t mean as much. It also seems so selfish, and I’m hurt that this is “his” money and not a life we have built together.”
“I told him I wouldn’t consider signing (emphasis on consider) until the kids are in school and I’m working, and we have done a fair amount of couples counseling. I see so much more sense in investing in the longevity of our relationship than at the end of it, particularly when we aren’t even on the verge of a divorce.”
What advice do you have for her?
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