Her In-Laws Want To Gift Her A House For Her Wedding, But She Won’t Accept It Because They Only Plan To Put Her Fiancé’s Name On The Deed
This 27-year-old woman is soon marrying her fiancé, 27, and they have a 1-year-old daughter. She and her fiancé are renting right now, but after saving up for five years, they have enough money for a deposit on a home.
While discussing home buying, they agreed to start house hunting after the wedding and use the money they saved for the deposit and mortgage. Even though they’re not married, they’ve already begun looking at homes.
“My fiancé’s parents told us a few days ago that they would be giving us a property they owned as a wedding gift. This is amazing and very generous. However, the house requires some serious renovations,” she said.
The house is worth roughly $200,000, which is more than she and her fiancé could afford for a home of their own, even considering how much work needs to be done on the house. It’s a spacious home in a fantastic location, so her in-laws’ offer is incredibly appealing.
Her fiancé suggested that the money they’d saved up for a deposit on a home could now go toward renovating the house his parents wanted to give them.
“We told my parents, and they said they’d like to pay for half the renovations as their wedding gift. This means we can afford all the renovations. However, after talking to his mom, she doesn’t intend to put me on the papers to the house, so, legally, only my husband would own the house,” she explained.
If she and her fiancé eventually had problems with their marriage, without her name on the deed to the house, she wouldn’t have any legal rights to stay there through a separation.
She’d have to move out, along with their daughter and any possible future kids. In her view, this is unfair.
During the conversation, her mother-in-law argued that this plan was fair, adding that if she and her fiancé filed for divorce, she wouldn’t be able to live in the house or try to claim ownership of it.
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According to her mother-in-law, leaving her off the deed was a way of protecting her fiancé in the event of a future divorce if they needed to settle disputes in court.
While she isn’t going into this marriage with the assumption that they’ll wind up divorced, she’s understandably concerned that her fiancé would later on file for divorce or that their marriage would fall apart, and if her name isn’t on the deed to the house, she would be in a difficult situation.
“His mom says, as it is their gift, it is not fair for it to be in my name. I’ve said to them if they don’t put my name on it, I don’t want it, and we’d go ahead and purchase one in both our names,” she shared.
After she said this, her mother-in-law was enraged and expressed how upset she was that they were looking at homes an hour away from her.
Then, her mother-in-law accused her of being “ungrateful” for the kind gift she was offering, and her fiancé agreed with his mother’s argument.
She pointed out that she would be greatly appreciative of her mother-in-law’s gesture if she was allowed to have her name on the deed.
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