Her Teen Sister Is Pregnant, But She Doesn’t Want To Take In Her Sister’s Baby, Even Though She’s Looking To Adopt With Her Husband
This woman’s half-sister, 17, is pregnant and wants to keep the baby, choosing to forgo looking into adoption. Unfortunately, their father and her half-sister’s mother don’t support this plan and aren’t willing to help.
They’ve stated that her sister will have to navigate motherhood herself, adding that once her sister turns 18, they will force her to move out.
The child’s father doesn’t want any involvement in the child’s life, and he probably won’t pay child support because his way of earning income is sketchy.
She and her husband have struggled to get pregnant, so they’ve been researching other ideas for growing their family. In the past, they fostered a child who was eventually reunited with their biological mom, which can be a tough experience for foster parents to endure.
She and her husband acknowledged this was best for the child they fostered and the child’s mom, but they were understandably devastated. Going through that experience again would be too painful.
Instead, they’ve been researching private adoption agencies, and they could possibly adopt a baby in several months. However, they’ve been attempting not to get their hopes up because they know it’s not guaranteed.
“My sister thinks the best solution is for us to raise her baby for a few years while she finishes school and gets herself established in a career,” she said.
According to her sister, raising a baby by herself at a young age would be too difficult, and she added that it made sense for them to take care of her baby since they were already in the process of hopefully adopting a child, anyway.
But she and her husband aren’t thrilled about this plan since they don’t feel comfortable with raising two infants at the same time.
Andreshkova Nastya – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“So, taking my sister’s baby would mean we would have to pass on the other baby,” she explained.
Plus, they realized that taking care of her sister’s baby would be the same scenario as when they were foster parents.
They would be temporarily raising her sister’s child for several years, and then her sister would take the child back once she felt like she was ready to parent. It would be too heartbreaking for them to go through.
Her sister claimed that it wouldn’t be the same situation, pointing out that they would still visit and have contact with her child, and they’d be in an aunt and uncle role throughout the child’s life.
The problem is that she and her husband don’t live anywhere near her sister, so it isn’t likely they’d be able to see the child often.
“It would be a different matter if we were adopting her baby, but she doesn’t want that,” she shared.
While she and her husband didn’t pressure her sister into allowing them to adopt her baby, her sister was furious at even the mention of the idea.
Then, her sister claimed that they were trying to manipulate her into giving them her baby, just like their father and her mother did.
Her sister assured her that she only wanted them to raise her child temporarily, giving the child back when she was financially stable and independent.
What advice would you give her?
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