She Knows When Her Boyfriend Plans To Propose And Wants To Ask Him Not To Do It In Front Of His Female Friend, Who Hates Her And Thinks He Can Do Better
This 25-year-old woman’s boyfriend, 27, is going to propose soon. She’s aware of his plan because he’s been hinting about it, and he eventually directly stated that he’s finalizing the proposal, giving her all the details of where and roughly when it would be happening. He planned to propose on his birthday at a fair they’d be attending.
While she feels comfortable with her boyfriend’s proposal idea, she feels a bit guilty that he would take the focus away from his birthday to propose to her, but she acknowledged that as long as it was what he wanted, she would be happy.
She and her boyfriend plan to go to the fair twice, and he mentioned that he wanted to invite one of his female friends to come to the fair with them because his friend has never been to the fair and would have free time to come with them.
So, now she’s concerned that he’ll propose to her on the day his friend is accompanying them to the fair, and she doesn’t like this idea because his friend doesn’t like her. Unfortunately, they’ve never gotten along.
“I know she doesn’t like me, and I have proof that she doesn’t like me. She thinks that he can do much better, and I am not made for him,” she said.
Since she’s known her boyfriend’s friend, she’s done all she can to be friendly to her. She’s able to remain civil, but she hasn’t been able to develop a closer bond because his friend is always rude whenever she hangs out with her and her boyfriend.
Sometimes, his friend is on better behavior, and she feels hopeful that maybe his friend is warming up to her.
But every time, she realizes she’s wrong because several days afterward, her boyfriend’s friend would text him to say that she was only pretending to be in a good mood around her. Plus, his friend speaks negatively about her while intoxicated.
“He used to tell her everything that would happen in our relationship. Luckily, he stopped. I also know for a fact that she thinks our relationship shouldn’t have happened and that he and I basically are only friends, not boyfriend and girlfriend,” she explained.
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Given this history, she doesn’t feel comfortable with her boyfriend proposing while his friend is with them.
She’s worried that his friend will criticize her or cause drama after the proposal, and she doesn’t want a situation like that because she wants this moment with her boyfriend to be special and romantic.
Besides this friend, she hasn’t had any issues with her boyfriend’s other female friends, and she isn’t bothered with her boyfriend being friends with women. She has great relationships with the rest of his friend group, so it seems his friend despises her.
Upon reflection, she decided to confront her boyfriend and bluntly say that if he chose to propose to her while his friend was with them, she most likely wouldn’t accept his proposal, and she would possibly break up with him over it.
“I think I’m also going to tell him that I’m more uncomfortable with her than I thought because I thought I could just tolerate her. I’m also going to tell him that I’m losing sleep over this,” she shared.
Thinking about the upcoming proposal has caused her a lot of anxiety. Despite the drama with her boyfriend’s friend, she appreciates how much her boyfriend has supported her while she healed from the trauma that she endured from her abusive parents.
It’s difficult for her to imagine leaving her boyfriend if he doesn’t respect her wishes about not bringing his friend along for the proposal.
What advice would you give her?
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