When A Guy Truly Loves You, You Shouldn’t Feel The Need To Be Anything But Authentically Yourself
I don’t know about you, but it takes me a handful of dates before I feel like I can finally loosen up around a guy.
No matter how nice, charming, and personable the guy is, it takes me a while before I feel like I can be my authentic self. Sometimes, I don’t know if it’s anxiety, defensiveness, or if it’s simply human nature that makes me do this, but not being able to feel like you can truly settle down in front of someone can be exhausting.
So often, we force ourselves to stay ‘on’ during dates, putting up a guard and putting on a persona that isn’t our truly relaxed form.
Then, when things go wrong, and we don’t hear from a guy, or he makes it clear he doesn’t want to keep dating us, we start to blame ourselves and find ways to pick apart our dating persona.
My heart aches whenever I see my girlfriends pick themselves apart because things didn’t work out with a guy, and I often have to stop myself from doing the same thing.
But then, I’m reminded of the one piece of dating and relationship advice that I truly believe will always make sense.
If a guy really loves you, you shouldn’t be afraid to be anything but your true, authentic self.
Think about all the people you truly love and who love you, like your mom or best friend. Do you have to put on an act for them? Do you have to constantly watch what you say or what you do in front of them?
The answer is likely no.
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That’s because true love is nonjudgmental, and it’s forgiving. A guy who loves you shouldn’t make you feel like you have to be ‘on’, and you have to pretend to be someone you’re not. You should be able to just exist and go about living your life.
If you’ve been dating someone for a while and feel as though you still have to channel a different persona, that’s not a good sign.
Plus, you also don’t want to let yourself get too upset when things don’t go well with someone who bails once you start to relax and let your guard down.
That means if you stayed with them, you’d live in a state of stress and discomfort, not being able to feel like you can fully relax or be yourself. Who wants to live like that?
So remember– someone who loves you will love you for who you are. On your next dating adventure, your only job is to be yourself.
If that’s not good enough for someone, it’s time to brush them off and move on to the next person. You’ve got this!
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