As You Recover From The Heartache Of Your Breakup, Here Are Some Tips For Getting Your Confidence Back
I don’t know about you, but whenever I’ve broken up with someone or had a situationship that went down the drain, most of my friends quickly encouraged me to get right back out there and live my best single life until the next great person comes along.
While I know they mean well, I think they underestimate or gloss over just how hard it is to feel the energy and the confidence to pick yourself up and get back into the world of dating and adventure after a breakup.
Because, let’s face it – breakups are energy zappers. They can make you feel exhausted, drained, and undesirable.
It can take a while for you not only to feel like yourself again after a breakup but also to be confident enough to enjoy yourself and go on living your best life. But if you’re feeling stuck, here are some tips to help you get there.
Allow yourself to be sad
Take a decent amount of time to feel sad about the end of your relationship and grieve it. The more you try to suppress any feelings of sadness, the harder it becomes for you to move on. Don’t let people pressure you into acting normal right away, and take some time to feel everything you need to feel.
Communicate with your friends and family
Let people know you’re having a hard time dealing with your breakup! So many people fear being seen as annoying or a burden when they vent about their breakups.
However, the people who love you most and want to see you succeed will want you to vent to them and help you through this. Tell your close friends and family that you’re struggling to feel like yourself again, and let them comfort you.
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Be kind to yourself
Sometimes, depending on the circumstances of our breakup, we blame ourselves for our situation. We blame ourselves for not being pretty or attentive enough to have made them stay, for choosing someone mean or dumb, etc.
However, having confidence is all about having self-love. It’s time to stop saying negative things about yourself and your appearance and start practicing self-love. Forgive yourself for any mistakes you’ve made and realize you deserve to be happy.
Put more time into your appearance
Please do not misread this and think that you need to become obsessed with how you look. This is simply a suggestion for those who tend to lay around in their pajamas and sweats when they get depressed. To start feeling a little better about yourself, you need to look the part.
Make more of an effort to get dressed in the morning, routinely shower, and even do your hair and makeup. Sometimes, in order to feel better, you have to start from the outside and take it in.
Make some plans
After you’ve allowed yourself to grieve your relationship, you should start slowly getting yourself back into the world and make some plans. Go out with your close friends and family, or enjoy solo activities. You’ll feel a lot better once you realize you can still enjoy your life and free time without your ex.
Getting yourself together after a breakup may take some time, but with a little extra hard work and help from your friends, you’ll be confident and ready to get back into the world in no time!
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