Getting Out Of The Honeymoon Phase Is Actually A Good Thing, Allowing You To Experience What “Real Life” Will Be Like With Your Partner And Put In Actual Work To Build A Strong Relationship
If you’ve ever been in a serious relationship, do you remember the day you felt your ‘honeymoon phase’ with your partner ended?
If you didn’t know, the ‘honeymoon phase’ is a term people use to describe the early stages of a new or budding relationship, where a couple feels so happy to be in love and be together that they overlook or fail to notice each other’s flaws and red flags.
During the honeymoon phase, people tend to want to spend all their time with their new partner and feel as though they could never get sick of them. Their partner is one of the only things on their mind, and they often find themselves talking about their partner to other people.
However, one day or over a few days, you may feel a switch as the relationship progresses. Little faults and red flags may begin popping up, and you feel like you could use a little bit of space from your partner instead of seeing them every single day.
Those are some indicators that you’ve transitioned out of the honeymoon phase and are entering a sort of ‘integration’ phase where you’re experiencing what your actual future with them could look like.
It’s no secret that ‘new love’ and the energy and zip you feel after entering a new relationship are sensations like no other. When that starts to fade away and you feel yourself entering a ‘real’ phase of your relationship, it can be scary.
But here’s the thing– exiting the honeymoon phase with someone doesn’t have to be a bad thing. In fact, it can actually be a great thing.
You may associate leaving the honeymoon phase with leaving the ‘best’ phase of your relationship. Many people think things will never be as good as they are when you’re in the honeymoon phase.
However, making it out of the honeymoon phase means you’re about to have to do some work on your relationship. It means you’ll have to accept your partner’s flaws, and they’ll have to accept yours. You’ll learn to communicate better, make sacrifices for each other, get a schedule and flow going, etc.
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After leaving the honeymoon phase, you begin to put in the work that builds a stable, happy, committed relationship. That’s something you shouldn’t fear but look forward to! However, you have to be ready to put in the work.
If the person you’re in a relationship with doesn’t want to work on things or seems to start resenting you once the honeymoon phase is over, it may be time to say goodbye.
The good ones are the ones who are willing to stick by you and figure things out as you enter a new phase of life. The good ones don’t jump ship as soon as the happy, shiny chapter is over.
If you feel the honeymoon phase drifting away, don’t give up on your partner the second things seem to dim. Think about what you want for your future as a couple, set some goals, and be ready to work for your relationship. You’ve got this!
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