Abby Connolly
If you’ve ever been in a serious relationship, do you remember the day you felt your ‘honeymoon phase’ with your partner ended?
If you didn’t know, the ‘honeymoon phase’ is a term people use to describe the early stages of a new or budding relationship, where a couple feels so happy to be in love and be together that they overlook or fail to notice each other’s flaws and red flags.
During the honeymoon phase, people tend to want to spend all their time with their new partner and feel as though they could never get sick of them. Their partner is one of the only things on their mind, and they often find themselves talking about their partner to other people.
However, one day or over a few days, you may feel a switch as the relationship progresses. Little faults and red flags may begin popping up, and you feel like you could use a little bit of space from your partner instead of seeing them every single day.
Those are some indicators that you’ve transitioned out of the honeymoon phase and are entering a sort of ‘integration’ phase where you’re experiencing what your actual future with them could look like.
It’s no secret that ‘new love’ and the energy and zip you feel after entering a new relationship are sensations like no other. When that starts to fade away and you feel yourself entering a ‘real’ phase of your relationship, it can be scary.
But here’s the thing– exiting the honeymoon phase with someone doesn’t have to be a bad thing. In fact, it can actually be a great thing.
You may associate leaving the honeymoon phase with leaving the ‘best’ phase of your relationship. Many people think things will never be as good as they are when you’re in the honeymoon phase.
However, making it out of the honeymoon phase means you’re about to have to do some work on your relationship. It means you’ll have to accept your partner’s flaws, and they’ll have to accept yours. You’ll learn to communicate better, make sacrifices for each other, get a schedule and flow going, etc.
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