Her Mom Thinks Her Husband Is A Creep For Wanting To Quit His Job And Be The Caretaker For His Paralyzed Sister
This 28-year-old woman has a 30-year-old husband, and her husband has a little sister a year younger than she is.
Sadly, her husband’s little sister got into a car accident when she was 14, leaving her paralyzed from her neck down ever since then. Her husband’s little sister was only physically affected by the accident, but not mentally.
“My husband was 17 at the time, and the driver,” she explained. “He feels responsible even though my sister-in-law has never blamed him.”
Currently, her 64-year-old mother-in-law is the full-time caretaker of her sister-in-law. Her husband actually works as a nurse, and one of his female friends from work helps care for his little sister at a discounted price.
Pretty recently, her husband’s friend had to take a leave of absence from work, so she and her husband have been stepping in to help care for her sister-in-law.
She and her husband help her sister-in-law get dressed and take baths as part of helping to care for her.
“Seeing how caring, gentle, and compassionate my husband is just reinforces why I fell in love with him,” she said.
“My mother-in-law, as she gets older, has unfortunately declined physically and often vents about having to care for her daughter but never where she can hear. My husband and I have talked about having his sister move in with us. We have the room, the house is already compliant with her needs, and we aren’t having children.”
“My husband would quit his job to be her full-time caretaker, and I would keep working. Financially, this is very doable for us even without my husband’s income, as I make more than enough. I am 1000% on board with this.”
Inti St. Clair – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
She informed her mom about all of this, and her mom simply said it’s not appropriate that her husband is helping his little sister get bathed and dressed.
She was horrified by how cold her mom was being, and then her mom said that her mother-in-law should either deal on her own, put her in an assisted living facility, or pay to find a full-time caretaker.
Since her husband’s friend can no longer help care for her sister-in-law, her husband does not feel comfortable trusting the care of his sister to a stranger.
“Now my mother is constantly on my case that I shouldn’t let my husband quit his job to care for his sister,” she said.
She doesn’t agree with her mom at all, as her husband’s wish to care for his sister is not weird in any way.
She’s not sure how to get her mom to understand that this is a good thing and something that will alleviate the burden her mother-in-law currently bears.
She’s wondering how she can get her mom to understand things from her side since they absolutely will be moving forward with caring for her sister-in-law.
“I don’t need her permission, but I’d love to have her support,” she concluded. “Any ideas on how to get my mother on board?”
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