This 38-year-old woman is married to her 39-year-old husband, and while she loves him, their romance has been dead for the last four years.
A few evenings ago, she had a bit too much to drink and ended up making out with her coworker, who also happens to be a friend of hers.
“We got in a cab to share together, the memory is very vague, but he begged me to get [out of] the cab with him at his stop. I did because I felt awkward for the cab driver, and the second we got off, he pushed me against a wall, and we made out. I didn’t push back,” she explained.
“But once I realized what I was doing, I pushed him away. We did kiss a few times; it was a proper make-out, but nothing more. A stupid, lustful moment. I made sure it didn’t go any further, and I got in a cab and went home.”
“I was wasted, so I’m remembering little moments at a time, so obviously, drinking is an issue I will deal with separately. I only have regret, and I know telling my husband will hurt him so badly.”
Additionally, it’s bound to get awkward at work and ruin the mood if she turns this into anything more. She feels guilty and ashamed, and she is aware that she was wrong.
She is not interested in pursuing her coworker, and she has already learned from this massive mistake. She has spoken to her coworker about their makeout session, and they’re acting like it never happened. She’s just hoping he does keep quiet.
She has asked some of her best friends what she should do, and they know her husband. All of her friends feel that because it was a lapse in judgment, she shouldn’t tell her husband about what she did with her coworker.
Despite that, she’s waffling on whether she needs to let her husband know the truth.
“I logically know that telling him is just me wanting forgiveness and is selfish. Will this guilt pass with time? If I’m gonna tell him, what’s the best way to bring it up? Do I also address our [romance] issues at the same time?” she wondered.
Well, she definitely needs to let her husband know, and yes, they also have to have a chat about their problems in their own marriage.
I suppose this is a symptom of her not feeling wanted by her own husband, but I’m not saying that absolves her of any guilt. And it sounds like they need to go to couples counseling or just get a divorce.
What do you think she should do?
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