She Told Her Friend Who Just Had A Baby To Stop “Bragging” About Delivering Without An Epidural And “Shaming” The Rest Of Their Friend Group For Using One
So many women have different opinions and beliefs on the “best way” to have a baby and get through the labor and delivery process. Some strongly believe in natural births, while others stand by the idea that you should do whatever you need to do to bear the pain.
However, when all is said than done, as long as mom and baby are taken care of, there is not one right or wrong way to give birth, and every woman has a different experience.
One woman and her friend group recently ganged up on one of their friends after she mentioned that she didn’t get an epidural when she had her new baby.
She’s 28 and is in a friend group with other women her age. One of those friends is a 27-year-old woman named Sarah, who recently gave birth to her first baby. She and Sarah have known each other for 15 years.
Sarah was the last person in their friend group to have a baby, so all the other moms looked forward to congratulating and supporting her.
But what was supposed to be a lovely group visit with Sarah and the new baby got ugly quite fast.
“We all enjoyed meeting [with] the group as a whole, and motherhood seemed to be finding her well,” she said.
“But then, another friend of ours asked her about her birth experience. Sarah told us about it and mentioned that she did not have an epidural. I was a little annoyed, as some moms seem to think going through [much] unnecessary pain is something to brag about.”
Then, she sarcastically asked Sarah if she wanted the group to give her a medal for not using an epidural. When Sarah asked her why she was making that comment, she accused Sarah of “shaming” the rest of their friend group for using epidurals and that not using one wasn’t something to “brag” about.
Volodymyr – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Sarah said it wasn’t her intention to brag about the epidural, but soon enough, their other friends began pitching in, telling Sarah she never should’ve brought up not having an epidural, as she knew all the other mothers in the room had one.
“She just said she was sorry if she upset us but that she really did not mean it that way,” she recalled.
“It became sour, so we all decided to leave. I thought she would text us later and apologize, but her husband sent us a text from her number instead. He basically told us that Sarah was incredible during birth and would have been with or without an epidural and that we were the ones shaming her for not having one. We did not respond but instead created another group chat talking about it.”
She and her friends continued to disapprove of Sarah’s remarks, believing that she was acting self-righteous even if she didn’t originally intend to hurt their feelings. She hasn’t heard from Sarah since, and her husband reminded her that it was up to her if she wanted this to ruin their long friendship.
Should she apologize to Sarah or wait until she hears from her?
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