He’s Considering Divorce After Only Six Months Of Marriage Because He Feels Like He Rushed Into Tying The Knot, And His Wife Is Constantly Trying To Control Everything
Six months ago, this 27-year-old man and his wife, 29, married, and they have been arguing throughout their entire marriage. He and his wife dated for a year before getting married, and they had issues leading up to their wedding, too.
They have many problems, but one is how disrespectfully his wife speaks to him. She always yells at him and doesn’t care if they’re alone or around other people, even strangers when she does it.
Yesterday, a real estate agent came over to their house because they were trying to sell it so that they could move somewhere else. They renovated their kitchen not long ago, and the project added square footage to the room. He estimated that their renovations added roughly 80 square feet to the kitchen, but he decided to quickly take some measurements to make sure.
“As I got the tape measure out and started to measure, she twisted her head and snapped at me, and yelled to stop. Taking the square feet of the kitchen would’ve taken not even two minutes,” he said.
He was understandably stunned and saddened that his wife screamed at him, especially in front of their real estate agent. However, he didn’t address his wife’s behavior then because he worried about causing more tension and making the real estate agent uncomfortable. Later, when they were alone, he spoke to his wife, and she twisted the situation.
“She gaslit me and said it’s her culture to be loud, that I make a big deal out of everything. She is a blame-shifting expert,” he explained.
Every time they fight about something his wife did, she tells him everything is his fault, and she never takes accountability for her actions. She said he should have been more confident and authoritative about measuring the kitchen.
In response, he said that the moment she began yelling, there was no point in having a mature discussion with her, so he chose to move on because he didn’t want to make their real estate agent uncomfortable.
Unfortunately, his wife is even angrier when they’re alone. On one occasion, at 9 a.m., his wife shrieked her head off because she didn’t think he was getting ready quickly enough for a flight they had to catch.
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Their plane was taking off at 5:30 p.m., and he’d been awake since 7 a.m. to pack and do some last-minute housework. He was finished with everything he needed to do at 10 a.m., so they obviously still had plenty of time to make it to the airport on time.
From his perspective, his wife orders him around, and he’s essentially her maid. After a workout at the gym, he occasionally purchases a pack of tortilla bread to make burritos, and his wife has freaked out about the impulse purchase because she wants to be the one to make all the decisions about the groceries they buy.
“We came close to breaking up when we were dating because once, she slammed the door of my car, and all the way up to the apartment, she was telling me I’m too sensitive and that I was the problem. I’m so tired of the narcissist gaslighting,” he shared.
Plus, he sadly gave his two cats to family members because his wife was allergic to cats, and he wanted their relationship to work. Upon reflection, he thinks they got married too quickly. They married because his wife’s tourist visa was about to expire.
Now, he’s thinking about filing for divorce, and he’d prefer to do it sooner rather than later because the longer he waits, the higher his alimony payment to her would be. Even though he adores a lot of his wife’s qualities, he’s concerned that they don’t have enough in common to make their marriage last.
What advice would you give him?
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