Abby Connolly
Ladies, have you ever been on a few dates with a guy, and things were going really well, and then out of the blue, he just started acting really cold?
It’s the worst when a guy treats you extremely well, only to start acting like a jerk and ignoring you without explanation, leaving you to think back on everything you said or did while dating him so you can find a reason to blame yourself.
A lot of people will tell you not to take a guy flaking on you personally, but that’s really hard advice to follow. However, you really should follow it.
Unless a guy you’re dating tells you exactly why he’s been distant and that it has something to do with you, it’s more often that something is going on with him.
It is important to remember that everyone, regardless of gender or age, most often hates having to tell someone they’re not interested anymore. This is why so many people end up getting ghosted or forced to deal with someone who slowly pulls away until the relationship has fizzled out.
One of the main reasons why a guy may distance himself from you is because he has something else going on in his life that’s taking up his time. Something could be going on with his job, family, mental health, etc., and he might not be comfortable with telling you about it yet.
That’s why it’s a good idea, if you really care about this guy, to let him know that you’re always open to listening to what he has to say and are around to help.
Another reason a guy may start distancing himself is because he feels that the relationship is moving too fast. He could have commitment issues or may have given you the impression that he wants to be serious and enter something long-term when he actually doesn’t.
Additionally, if you’re not giving a guy enough space, he will start showing up and replying less.
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