Abby Connolly
One of the hardest places to find yourself when it comes to dating and love is being in an on-again, off-again relationship.
Being in an on-again, off-again relationship with someone is like living with emotional whiplash 24/7. During one month, you think they’re the love of your life, and you see yourself spending the rest of your days with them. Then, another month, you’re ready to end things and try to move on.
There are so many reasons why you may find yourself in an on-again, off-again relationship. You may find yourself constantly getting back with this person because of your history, compatibility, dependency on them, attraction to them, etc.
While it’s not uncommon to break up with someone and get back together again, doing it several times and entering a vicious on-and-off cycle can be bad for your mental health and development as a person.
Sometimes, on-again, off-again relationships reach a place where each person finally feels settled and decides to stay together. However, a lot of the time, people keep putting themselves through the process even though they’re not even that happy when they are with the other person anymore.
If you’ve been in an on-again, off-again relationship and aren’t getting any more satisfaction from being with that person, here are some tips for finally putting an end to the cycle once and for all.
Tell them what you want
Sit your partner down and tell them everything you want out of a relationship they haven’t been doing for you. Explain that you want something more concrete or are tired of going back and forth all the time.
This is important as your partner may have figured you were fine with the lack of consistency, and they should know your reasons for wanting to end things.
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