Her Friend Accused Her Of Only Wanting To Have Fun Instead Of Settling Down, So She Called Her Friend “Desperate” For Constantly Rushing Into Relationships And Trying To Marry The First Guy She Sees
Do you know someone who is so obsessed with the idea of one day being married and having children that they’ve had the tendency to rush into relationships in hopes of finding their perfect partner?
One woman recently snapped at her friend and called her ‘desperate’ because of her intense and fast-paced relationship history. Now, she wonders if she went too far.
She has a close friend named Mia. They’re both 32 but have known each other since they were 12. They grew close in college and moved away from their home country.
For years, they’ve been certain of what they want out of their futures. She has no desire to get married or have kids and wants to spend her adult years traveling and enjoying adventures. On the other hand, Mia has always had her heart set on getting married by 27 and having babies by the time she was 30.
For years, Mia’s tried to make her feel guilty for not wanting the same things as her, telling her she’d “regret it” one day, which always annoyed her.
In 2015, Mia was determined to find the love of her life and get married. That year, she tracked down a former classmate, Pete, who still lived in their home country.
“Four months later, she visited Pete and told everyone they were engaged,” she explained.
“I asked her if she was sure, and she said they were in love and couldn’t wait to be married so she could sponsor him and be in the same country. I’m ashamed to say my first thought after she told me was that he was using her to get a green card.”
Before Mia and Pete could marry, the wedding was called off after it was discovered that Pete had been cheating on her.
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It only took two years for Mia to reconnect with another former classmate, Jay, who also lived in their home country. After one year of dating, Mia married Jay in their home country and eventually immigrated back to the country she lived in three years ago.
Mia continued to follow her dream life plan and had a baby boy with Jay in February of 2022. Things were moving quickly, but Mia achieved her goal of becoming a mom at 30.
Meanwhile, she recently made some big life decisions of her own.
“I recently started a new remote job that gives me a lot of freedom, so I decided to travel solo,” she said.
“I have a close group of friends, and we do a weekly girls’ night. Mia gave birth again in October and hasn’t been able to join us, so last week, she invited us to her house for dinner. During dinner, a friend asked me about my travel plans. When [I told] the others, they were happy for me. Mia was quiet and seemed annoyed.”
One friend mentioned how jealous she was about her travel plans, and Mia scoffed, muttering that her decision was irresponsible. She asked Mia to explain herself, and Mia told her that she hadn’t “grown up” and accused her of only wanting to have fun instead of settling down.
She told Mia that just because she wasn’t married with kids didn’t mean she was a grown-up, and Mia said her life was meaningless. That’s when she responded, “At least I’m not desperate enough to fly to a different country and marry the first guy I [see].”
Looking back on that night, she wonders if she went too far by saying that to Mia, especially remembering how hurt she was by what Pete did to her.
Should she feel bad, or did Mia deserve that response?
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