She Didn’t Give Her Bridesmaid A Plus-One As A Way Of Subtly Saying That She Doesn’t Want Her Bridesmaid’s Husband Attending Her Wedding
This 26-year-old woman will be tying the knot with her fiancé, who is 27, in just five months. She couldn’t be more excited about her big day, either, and believes she’s marrying the love of her life.
So, they recently sent out their wedding invitations. But, she decided not to give one of her bridesmaids a plus-one as a way to subtly convey that her bridesmaid’s husband isn’t invited to her wedding.
For some context, she has known her friend and her friend’s husband for the past eight years. In fact, she was there from the very beginning, when they first started dating.
“He was charming for the first 10 minutes,” she recalled, “Then I could immediately tell he was a raging narcissist.”
Apparently, for the entire first year, the guy would just use her friend in the bedroom and “breadcrumb” her friend into believing that he actually wanted a relationship.
It wasn’t until after that first year that her friend’s now-husband finally “broke down” and became her friend’s official boyfriend.
However, this isn’t the only reason why she doesn’t like the guy. Rather, her family also hates him for a couple of reasons.
First of all, her friend’s husband actually got into a fight with her 45-year-old neighbor during her birthday party. Plus, her friend’s husband is always constantly and aggressively hitting on her brother’s wife – which just makes everyone in her family uncomfortable.
“And if all this isn’t enough, I’m 99.9% sure he’s having an affair,” she revealed.
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That’s why she really doesn’t want her friend’s husband at her wedding – even if her friend is going to be a bridesmaid.
She’s also tried to talk to her friend about these issues in the past. Yet, every single time, her friend just wouldn’t listen to her.
“However, I refuse to have him at my wedding,” she vented.
She really doesn’t think that makes her a jerk, either. Still, since she just sent out her wedding invitations, she can’t help but wonder if declining to give her bridesmaid a plus-one to make sure her husband doesn’t attend was really the wrong way to handle the situation.
Do you think the subtle route was the best way to go? Or do you think she should’ve been more upfront with her friend? How would you have handled this?
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