She Dropped Out Of Her Sister’s Bridal Party After Learning That Her Dad’s Girlfriend, Who She Hates, Is The Maid Of Honor
In many cases where siblings have parents who split up and enter a relationship with someone new, it can take them a different amount of time to adjust to that new person in their lives. Some siblings adjust faster and can build relationships more easily, while others have a harder time.
One woman recently dropped out of her sister’s bridal party after discovering that their dad’s girlfriend, who she does not get along with, will also be in it.
She’s 32 and has a younger sister, Maria, who’s 25 and getting married. She was planning on being one of Maria’s bridesmaids.
When she was a teenager, her parents got divorced. Although her mom got full custody of her and her sister, her dad would still visit. Unfortunately, when her dad did come around, he mostly wanted to spend time with Maria.
Her dad’s excuse for what felt like blatant favoritism was that Maria “needed him more,” and this hurt her growing up. Her relationship with her dad hasn’t been the same since her parents’ divorce.
A few years after her parents split up, her dad began dating his current girlfriend, Jane. Unfortunately, she and Jane don’t really get along, as she immediately started inserting herself into her business.
“Jane was obsessed with the idea of reconciling our relationship,” she explained.
“The few times I’ve met her, she would get into arguments with me, claiming that my dad only wants his daughter back and [telling me] to give him a chance.”
She and Jane have gotten into a few nasty arguments, and Jane accuses her of being her mom’s “lap dog” because she doesn’t want to reconcile things with her dad.
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After a nasty fight at Maria’s apartment last summer, she hasn’t heard from her dad or Jane.
“With Maria’s upcoming wedding, I expected to see them there, and I’ve made my peace to [with staying] as far [from them] as possible,” she said.
“But a few days ago, she told me she had a maid of honor in mind.”
To her surprise, Maria had chosen Jane to be her maid of honor, as she had been “nothing but sweet” to her during the wedding planning process. Maria then ranted about how Jane was sorry for what happened over the summer, and she had to stop her.
She told Maria that she should be able to have anyone she wants as her maid of honor, but if she chose Jane, she wouldn’t want to be a bridesmaid anymore, as she didn’t want to interact with Jane during the wedding planning and pre-wedding events.
“I would still attend the wedding, but I wouldn’t be a bridesmaid,” she added.
“This made [Maria] tear up. She begged me to reconsider as she wanted me to be part of her big day, and I told her I [would], but just as an attendee. In the end, she said it’s okay, but asked me to reconsider.”
Since her conversation with Maria, her dad has been bombarding her with angry messages, telling her she’s acting childish and ruining Maria’s day.
Should she agree to be a bridesmaid or is she being smart by staying out of the bridal party?
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