She Doesn’t Want To Attend Her Sister’s Wedding Unless Her Sister Apologizes For Calling Her Husband Lazy And Claiming She “Settled For Less”

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Tobica - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual people

When your family or some relatives don’t approve of your partner, they usually have good reasons, and it’s a sign there may be some red flags you haven’t seen. However, there could also be a few family members who don’t like your partner for petty reasons, and that’s always disappointing.

One woman doesn’t want to attend her younger sister’s wedding because of the way she’s been treating her husband without apologizing.

She’s 28 and has been happily married to her husband, Jake, for two years. She has a 26-year-old sister named Lily who will be getting married next month, and she still hasn’t decided if she’ll go to the wedding.

The main reason why she doesn’t want to attend Lily’s wedding is because of how she treats Jake.

“Lily has never liked Jake,” she explained.

“From the moment I introduced them, she’s been cold and dismissive towards him. Jake is a kind and gentle person, always trying to win her over, but she’s made it clear she doesn’t approve of our relationship. She’s made several snide comments about his job. He’s a freelance graphic designer and sometimes works odd hours. [She’s] even questioned his ability to support me despite the fact that we’re both financially stable and happy with our lives.”

Things really fell apart at a recent family dinner when Lily ripped Jake to shreds in front of everyone. She called Jake lazy and told her that she “settled for less” when she married him.

To make things worse, her parents didn’t intervene and shut Lily down. Jake handled the situation as best he could by simply smiling and excusing himself from the table.

“I was furious and confronted Lily later, but she brushed it off as just joking,” she recalled.

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“I told her how hurtful her words were and that she owed Jake an apology. She refused, saying she was just looking out for me. When we received her wedding invitation, I couldn’t shake the feeling of dread. Jake, bless his heart, said he’d support whatever decision I made, but I know it hurt him deeply. I don’t want to go to an event where my husband is disrespected and made to feel unwelcome.”

She decided to tell Lily that she wouldn’t go to her wedding unless she apologized to Jake, and Lily told her she was selfish and accused her of ruining her day.

Her parents are siding with Lily and told her she should suck it up and go to the wedding “for the sake of family harmony.” They said Lily made those comments about Jake because she was stressed out from wedding planning, but she knows that’s not true.

“I feel like attending without an apology is condoning her behavior towards Jake,” she added.

Is she overreacting, or does she have a good reason not to attend her sister’s wedding?

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